When should I expect to hear from SS?
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Hey guys,
I'm nervously waiting to hear from SS, can anyone give me a rough explanation on what I should expect and any advice?
Ex is on bail for the next 3 months and we have a 16 week old baby boy.
I'm nervously waiting to hear from SS, can anyone give me a rough explanation on what I should expect and any advice?
Ex is on bail for the next 3 months and we have a 16 week old baby boy.
With me it was the same week the knock happened with the duty social worker for initial talk and then it was about a fortnight later with my assigned social worker x
For us we had a quick initial check in the day after the arrest and then within 2 weeks we had a follow up call from a SW asking how we were managing and as we were complying with them they closed us down. Not overly helpful as we had no way of working with them on a safety plan for over night at home so our person has had to sleep elsewhere for 5 months now. It's our son and he's at grandparents so manageable at this stage but difficult.
Hi there, experiences with SS seem to differ in every case! For me, I had to hassle and hassle to get anything to happen, it was 9 days after the knock before I saw a SW, in that time my 2 yearold daughter wasn't allowed any contact with her Dad.
From there they did an 'initial assessment' which they can take up to 9 weeks to do but I think ours was done in about 7. Initially contact was restricted to 2 hours a day, not at home, with 2 supervisors. Over the 7 weeks this eventually changed to me being allowed to supervise on my own, at home, with no time restrictions, but my husband cannot sleep at home, to be reviewed after sentencing which could still be months away for us. (For context knock was Nov 25).
I have heard of a few people being allowed by SS to have their person home, but the most likely situation is that you will unfortunately be living like a single mum until your person is charged.
It may be the case that you don't want them home, and that is entirely your decision. Don't let SS pressure you to decide either way.
If you do want to be with them, or at least have him in your little one's life, be sure you don't say anything to social services that sounds like you are minimising your OH's actions i.e. "he would never harm our child", as they will not see it as you being protective, that doesn't mean you have to write off being a family though, you are allowed to make your intentions clear, ie. "I understand the seriousness of the allegations against my partner and I will take xyz measures to keep my child safe, but we do intend to work through this time as a family"
I do hope you get a kind and understanding, non judgemental social worker and get a positive experience in all this mess. Good luck x
From there they did an 'initial assessment' which they can take up to 9 weeks to do but I think ours was done in about 7. Initially contact was restricted to 2 hours a day, not at home, with 2 supervisors. Over the 7 weeks this eventually changed to me being allowed to supervise on my own, at home, with no time restrictions, but my husband cannot sleep at home, to be reviewed after sentencing which could still be months away for us. (For context knock was Nov 25).
I have heard of a few people being allowed by SS to have their person home, but the most likely situation is that you will unfortunately be living like a single mum until your person is charged.
It may be the case that you don't want them home, and that is entirely your decision. Don't let SS pressure you to decide either way.
If you do want to be with them, or at least have him in your little one's life, be sure you don't say anything to social services that sounds like you are minimising your OH's actions i.e. "he would never harm our child", as they will not see it as you being protective, that doesn't mean you have to write off being a family though, you are allowed to make your intentions clear, ie. "I understand the seriousness of the allegations against my partner and I will take xyz measures to keep my child safe, but we do intend to work through this time as a family"
I do hope you get a kind and understanding, non judgemental social worker and get a positive experience in all this mess. Good luck x
I hope theyve gotten in contact with you by now. I saw them about a week after the knock. I had a love hate relationship with SS but I chose to stay so I got the persuasion techniques they use to try and force you to leave. I had a baby too at the time. She was 8 months at the time of the knock, shes now 2 and thriving. Such a cheeky, chaotic, energetic and incredibly smart little lady. This entire process has gone over her head. All she knows is daddy is at work and thats it. She knows mummy and daddy work and mummy leaves to go to work so to her its a valid reason for him to not be there. Does break my heart still when she asks for him and grabs my phone and says call daddy? See daddy? Picture, picture? Cuddle daddy? Daddy work. Oh daddy work, daddy come back ding dong (door bell as she knows the door going is usually him) I have a photo on my phone of him so she can see him if she wants to as his work pattern means we cant do video calls a lot of the time.
