I'm 4 years post knock. 6 months post divorce.

I surrounded myself with good friends who helped and supported me. Took myself out of my comfort zone and tried new things. Made new friends. My first dip into the dating scene was fun but never going anywhere. Have now met a lovely bloke - he knows the bare bones if what has happened to me - doesn't pry and accepts me for what I am.

I now remember what being in love is all about and realise that that had been missing even before the knock.

Don't let the offending cloud your future - it doesn't define you as you have done nothing wrong.

There are food people out there.

Could have written this. No advice but I'm with you!

No advice either as I have just come to the decision to leave as well. Just letting you know that I know exactly how you feel.

Right now I am focusing on getting my own life back on track - hitting up the gym, going for walks, spending time with family, going to church etc. I have no interest whatsoever in dating or meeting new people atm. I think I'm completely done with it. I hope time will heal us all in this situation.

Hi, I'm currently going through this stage. I can't even think about dating again, or trusting someone to build a relationship with my daughter as he is step-dad and has been for 5 of her 7 years of life.

My little girl has started pony club which I'm finding while she is making friends, I am too. Being around new people is quite refreshing. It's something to look forward to. I don't have much help with childcare so finding things to do with my daughter helps, and finding away of becoming independent again.

If you can book something to look forward to, I've booked a week away in August and I'm focusing on that.

Just need SS to disappear but until I have been offered a house through housing I think they'll be here to stay as currently living in a house which is owned by him even though he has moved out.

I can't imagine trusting or being in a relationship again, TBH. I know that's not very consoling! But there are definitely advantages to being single. Men just feel like too much work. And I think most contemporary men are porn-addled to varying degrees and I just can't be bothered to deal with that. And I need all my energy for my children as a single parent. I just don't have time to take a man on. So I'm kind of at peace with being a cat lady once my children have grown up & left home. In the unlikely event of me meeting a man worth the energy who also likes me I can always reconsider ????

I'm a number of years past door knock and divorce and never, ever thought I'd trust ANYONE again. However I met someone and was very open from the get go of what we had been through and He was/is incredible and my life is so very different from my married one. There is a future. There's a brilliant podcast I listened to called Jillian on Love, and it had stories about dating after trauma etc. I still go to counselling too. One day at a time xo

No advice. I'm team leave. It's been nearly 2yrs since the knock and I've no intention of dating yet. I'm focusing on being there for my child; attending all the school stuff, making memories, talking about our new normal and giving them opportunity to ask any questions. Filling my non-parenting time by spending it with good friends. Getting out of the house (even just for walks), selling anything that was gifted to me or reminds me of him on Vinted/eBay etc. Cutting out the "mutual" friends who have supported me rather than him (who also still don't know the situation).
Also lots of self care;and looking after my health-prioritising me for a change.

I'm concentrating on being happy in myself; I don't know if there ever will be someone I'm interested in romantically or if I will ever trust again. but I do know that despite the bar already being set VERY LOW (underground if we're honest) from my previous relationship; my new standards are much much higher and I won't be wasting my time on anyone who isn't an absolute 10.