Access to child and mounting legal bills
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Door knock happened in 2023 and our lives have never been the same since, yet I'm grateful it happened as I had no clue what was going on under my own roof. I divorced my husband and allowed supervised access as he maintained innocence but when he was formally charged I stopped access. He then took me to court for access. His criminal case was charged for A,B,C IIOC and it was a big profile case hitting the local news and radio. The access case is ongoing and I cannot wrap my head around my child having even supervised access with him. Nor can I wrap my head around having to pay the mounting legal bills when we are blameless. All I want to do is protect my child, not only from a man I do not know (the dates of his crimes run for the entirety of our married life) but from the emotional trauma to come when I have to explain to my child what their father did and was arrested and removed from our home for. Child was under 3 when he was removed.
Can laws be changed? How do we fight for change?
Can laws be changed? How do we fight for change?
What are his SOR conditions as that would include details of their own children? Were social services involved at all as I'm sure their recommendations will come into play?
I can't offer any practical advise, but it is rubbish. I think in these cases it should be up to the mother (and children if they're old enough). I do allow supervised access, but my children are much older and have made the choice to see him themselves. And mercifully his offending only involved a small number of IIOC from one date. I think if he had a longterm pattern of accessing IIOC repeatedly I'd have felt different. A clean break is likely in your child's best interests, especially with the media attention.
I'm not sure of the SOR detail other than its 5 years and no access to under 18 but access case is still ongoing.
I do agree in cases such as these when couples are divorced it should be up to mother until child is of age to consent with full insight to crimes. It's just tough. Thanks for reply.
I do agree in cases such as these when couples are divorced it should be up to mother until child is of age to consent with full insight to crimes. It's just tough. Thanks for reply.
