He will have had to give the details of your address and children when he registered onto the SOR, as he visits there. SS will become involved now, yes. He will probably only be permitted to see his child at your home when SS are satisfied that safeguarding measures are adequate. He is unlikely to be allowed to stay overnight there, or possibly even come into the property.

Sorry :(

What order is that? Community Order? Did he get a SHPO? The SOR conditions usually prohibit being with children more than 12 hrs, and SS are likely to want him to stay away until they are satisfied children are safe.

Ss msy contact you. What ss want to know is are you fully informed on what theyre sentenced to. The conditions of the sentencing and what you will be doing to safeguard your child.

My husband has a 2 year suspended sentence, 5 year SHPO and 10 years on the register. He has no restrictions on under 18s and we didnt need any SS approval for anything.

Once SS gave the go ahead for us to have overnights stay he just went to the police station and informed them of him staying over night with an under 18, signed the paper work. They said theyve call SS to check (we expected this, im sure people lie). And thats been that. I still supervise in the sense that I cant leave home alone, and he doesnt do personal care of our toddler alone (which honestly i think in the time prior to the knock was twice because I was either there next to him throwing wipes or helping him because OMG did we have a wriggler from day 1)

Yes SS will be involved. In your shoes. I would be proactive and self-refer (even though I'm 100% sure there will be a referral from the police). SS will be involved one way or another so you might as well get some brownie points for proactively reaching out! There are lots and lots of good threads on here stretching way back about working with SS, putting together safety plans etc. Also find out as much as possible about your partner's offence independently of your partner - Can you do a Claire's Law?

I feel your frustration. We've had similar, 9 images retrieved in the phones cache, with an uncharged decoy conversation. I referred to SS as soon as he went on the SOR because I knew it needed to happen despite the courts not deeming his case (considering context and evidence) a risk to children.
5 year SHPO purely for online restrictions and nothing in there about contact with children. However SS take a completely different stance, I think legally (from their perspective) they have to. So we had 9 months of no contact at all post sentencing and have had to fight for a phased plan to start with spending time out in public to phasing overnights. We're now 14 months post sentencing and started with 2 overnight stays a few weeks ago. My kids are so much happier and settled when my OH is around and they've expressed this to the SW, but we're still having to adhere to the restrictions they're imposing on us.
SS generally take a blanket approach to everyone on the SOR regardless of what the CJS have ruled, and their lack of knowledge around neurodivergency and online offences is staggering in this day and age. However we keep moving forward, demonstrating excellent protective parenting, working with them not against them - we have nothing to hide and my kids are thriving, so it's just a case of we keep doing what we're doing and hope that one day my kids and my family will have some sense of normal!
Here if you need any advice about the process xx