Sentencing is Complete and I am lost
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This is my first post here. The sentencing is over, it just happened today. 5 years on the register, suspended sentence and a community harm order. I am reeling. This is my partner who I am planning to marry and have a family with. I am still unsure of what I want to do. I love them and can't imagine being without them. But am I prepared to handle all of this? I am scared of people knowing and I think I'll always be scared. I am scared of the possibility of them getting a job when they are already physically disabled too. We are only in our early 20s. I have no idea what the future could look like. What can life really be like after this? Does anyone know?
I hear your distress, and I am sorry for your experience. If you post in the New Users section you will probably get more responses. I wish peace for you....
Hi and welcome to the forum. I'm sorry you're struggling to see a way forward at the moment. It will take time for the shock and trauma of the situation you find yourself in to settle so give yourself time before making any big decisions.
Although my situation differs from yours in that my person is my son, I'm happy to share his story with you.
On the day of sentencing our local media reported my sons case on social media which meant everyone who knew him quickly became aware of what had happened. In the early months, he withdrew almost completely, only leaving the house after dark for short walks. The community service hours he had to complete as part of his suspended sentence eventually required him to go out again, and although it was difficult at first, it became an important step in helping him re?engage with everyday life.
Over the following year, life settled into a routine as he slowly rebuilt his confidence. He began spending as much supervised time with his children as he could. He secured a job. It's a zero hours role, but it has given him structure, purpose, a place where he feels like an ordinary person again and the ability to work the hours around the times he has his childen. His employer is unaware of his conviction, and the stability of the work has helped him regain a sense of control.
He leads a quiet life, has developed good self awareness, understands how to keep himself well, and has learned to make better choices.
Life isnt the same as it was and never will be but we have people in our lives who love us, we spend time together as a family and we're happy.
Although my situation differs from yours in that my person is my son, I'm happy to share his story with you.
On the day of sentencing our local media reported my sons case on social media which meant everyone who knew him quickly became aware of what had happened. In the early months, he withdrew almost completely, only leaving the house after dark for short walks. The community service hours he had to complete as part of his suspended sentence eventually required him to go out again, and although it was difficult at first, it became an important step in helping him re?engage with everyday life.
Over the following year, life settled into a routine as he slowly rebuilt his confidence. He began spending as much supervised time with his children as he could. He secured a job. It's a zero hours role, but it has given him structure, purpose, a place where he feels like an ordinary person again and the ability to work the hours around the times he has his childen. His employer is unaware of his conviction, and the stability of the work has helped him regain a sense of control.
He leads a quiet life, has developed good self awareness, understands how to keep himself well, and has learned to make better choices.
Life isnt the same as it was and never will be but we have people in our lives who love us, we spend time together as a family and we're happy.
