Is it just me?
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I've never been ill so much in my life, I think it's the stress of the investigation going on and missing my ex because the love is still there even tho we can never be together again..
I'm getting ill every couple of weeks whereas I used to get ill maybe once or twice a year, then I end up giving it to my baby :/
I've been prescribed some anxiety medication from the doctor and referred to get some therapy so we'll see how that goes.
How is everyone else holding up? My ex is getting a lawyer as he thinks he's been phished rather than doing the unlawful himself but I don't know what to think.
I'm getting ill every couple of weeks whereas I used to get ill maybe once or twice a year, then I end up giving it to my baby :/
I've been prescribed some anxiety medication from the doctor and referred to get some therapy so we'll see how that goes.
How is everyone else holding up? My ex is getting a lawyer as he thinks he's been phished rather than doing the unlawful himself but I don't know what to think.
No it's not just you as the stress of all this, plus the uncertainty of not knowing about the future can play havoc with our bodies. That's why the best advice is to prioritise looking after yourself but as we all know that can be easier said than done when we are at the mercy of our thoughts and fears. It can take huge willpower to overcome that and sometimes it feels as if we just don't have the strength.
However you are taking some steps to mitigate this with involving your GP and having therapy so you just have to try and be patient as nothing works quickly. I avoided talking to my GP until weeks after our person's sentencing when I realised that I was struggling when I thought I would feel back to normal. I've been taking meds for PTSD and anxiety for about 6 weeks now and can feel an improvement finally but I also have very high blood pressure which is proving hard to control properly as my doctor says I have been in a 'fight or flight' mode for so long my brain knows I'm safe but my body hasn't caught up - so I am still getting huge adrenaline surges.
It sounds as if you're near the start of this nightmare and I send you lots of empathy and a big hug. You WILL get through this and here is the best place to come for advice and some encouragement.
However you are taking some steps to mitigate this with involving your GP and having therapy so you just have to try and be patient as nothing works quickly. I avoided talking to my GP until weeks after our person's sentencing when I realised that I was struggling when I thought I would feel back to normal. I've been taking meds for PTSD and anxiety for about 6 weeks now and can feel an improvement finally but I also have very high blood pressure which is proving hard to control properly as my doctor says I have been in a 'fight or flight' mode for so long my brain knows I'm safe but my body hasn't caught up - so I am still getting huge adrenaline surges.
It sounds as if you're near the start of this nightmare and I send you lots of empathy and a big hug. You WILL get through this and here is the best place to come for advice and some encouragement.
This is something that doesn't get mentioned too much. The effect my partners arrest had on my health was physically noticeable along with the involvement of SS. His arrest was nearly theee years ago and my body physically plummeted.
My body went into fight or flight mode continuously for a long period of time which cause me to develop a condition called SIBO. I lost so much weight, so much so that I was put on the 2WW for cancer. Nothing was found and doctors were literally scratching their heads. I had every test done, FIT test, CT scan, endoscopy, various blood tests for test for certain conditions- addisons disease ( I have a cousin who has this) MM, HIV, coeliac disease, EPI etc and all my vitamin levels plummeted, ferritin, B12 etc were on the floor. My nervous system was all over the place, cortisol issues- ie waking up randomly with a racing heart at 3AM.
Even now I'm not completely healed but I am miles better than what I was back then x
My body went into fight or flight mode continuously for a long period of time which cause me to develop a condition called SIBO. I lost so much weight, so much so that I was put on the 2WW for cancer. Nothing was found and doctors were literally scratching their heads. I had every test done, FIT test, CT scan, endoscopy, various blood tests for test for certain conditions- addisons disease ( I have a cousin who has this) MM, HIV, coeliac disease, EPI etc and all my vitamin levels plummeted, ferritin, B12 etc were on the floor. My nervous system was all over the place, cortisol issues- ie waking up randomly with a racing heart at 3AM.
Even now I'm not completely healed but I am miles better than what I was back then x
The answer to your post, is no it is not just you. Nearly 4 years post sentencing I suffer with high blood pressure, high colesterol, i suffer with sleeping which contributes to a bad eye which keeps becoming sore and puffy. I have been on anti depressants for years before the knock but i have failed to come off them as i was about to pre the knock. I feel my body is not well due to the stress i have been under for the last few years. I have put on alot of weight and have been unable to lose this, gp said this could be due to stress. I think that the health of the partners are not considered enough in this new life we find ourselves.
I think I actually went the opposite way. My husband was arrested last November and aside from a bit of a cold around Christmas I didn't get properly sick until like last week. I think my body was in overdrive trying to protect itself, that or I was unintentionally ignoring it because I'm the provider now and if I couldn't keep going then who would? Until I couldn't ignore it anymore.
My body had been giving me signals to slow down for weeks, headaches, crippling fatigue, joint pain. And then I woke up one morning with full blown tonsillitis that needed a massive dose of antibiotics to shift, and i was forced to take some time off work. I think it was my body saying "enough is enough, sit the fk down"
All you can do is try and take care of what you can. Prioritise your mental and physical health where you can. Medication has been a huge help to me, so I hope it helps you too. Therapy is a fantastic tool, especially if you get a therapist that has experience dealing with this sort of thing which I was fortunate to.
Exercise in some form is great too. I can't go to the gym though I'd love to because its not as easy anymore as just leaving my little girl with her Dad and popping out. So I've bought a treadmill and I walk for a while on a morning before she gets up or after she goes to bed.
It's not the time to be dieting but I've shifted to trying to eat more fruit and veg, and less processed stuff, you might find trying to eat nourshing, nutritious food helps you feel better long term, though I know too well how easy it is to just comfort eat! And add in an array of vitamins- it takes seconds out of your day and can make a huge difference to your immune system and energy levels! I take iron, folic acid, Vits B12, C, D, magnesium and cod liver oil.
Remember to try and take time for yourself as well where you can. I know its easier said than done when you've found yourself suddenly alone with a little one, but its so important. My therapist said to me "it's not selfish, it's self care" and it really struck something in me. Whether that's an extra long shower, watching a tv show when your little one is asleep, reading if that's your thing is great escapism. I hope you can start to feel somewhat better soon x
My body had been giving me signals to slow down for weeks, headaches, crippling fatigue, joint pain. And then I woke up one morning with full blown tonsillitis that needed a massive dose of antibiotics to shift, and i was forced to take some time off work. I think it was my body saying "enough is enough, sit the fk down"
All you can do is try and take care of what you can. Prioritise your mental and physical health where you can. Medication has been a huge help to me, so I hope it helps you too. Therapy is a fantastic tool, especially if you get a therapist that has experience dealing with this sort of thing which I was fortunate to.
Exercise in some form is great too. I can't go to the gym though I'd love to because its not as easy anymore as just leaving my little girl with her Dad and popping out. So I've bought a treadmill and I walk for a while on a morning before she gets up or after she goes to bed.
It's not the time to be dieting but I've shifted to trying to eat more fruit and veg, and less processed stuff, you might find trying to eat nourshing, nutritious food helps you feel better long term, though I know too well how easy it is to just comfort eat! And add in an array of vitamins- it takes seconds out of your day and can make a huge difference to your immune system and energy levels! I take iron, folic acid, Vits B12, C, D, magnesium and cod liver oil.
Remember to try and take time for yourself as well where you can. I know its easier said than done when you've found yourself suddenly alone with a little one, but its so important. My therapist said to me "it's not selfish, it's self care" and it really struck something in me. Whether that's an extra long shower, watching a tv show when your little one is asleep, reading if that's your thing is great escapism. I hope you can start to feel somewhat better soon x
