Tell me: it's NOT *that* bad... (moving on after conviction)
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I've tried therapy but even the therapists seem to drag me down into the bog. I really want to move on and the only way I see forward is not whataboutism (others have it worse) but that it's not *that* bad...
OH and I have both been teachers. Both lost (well, I am likely to lose - still awaiting a decision) our job (because I could have allegedly known and not acted blah blah). Can't travel pretty much to most countries outside of EU as a family. Job opportunities are very limited. That's the collateral damage that I can seem to think of that's undoable... am I missing something? I'm not that bothered about reputation (been through enough due to this to care).
Luckily, there is the internet and one can do a lot of jobs online, no? That doesn't revolve around children.
The world isn't just Australia that we longed to move to...there are other countries to visit outside of US, Canada and New Zeland. Right? Surely?
I just so desperately need a bit of sunray in my life to tell me this isn't as bad as police, therapists and many people here (understably, cause this is depressing and life changing) think it is.
Hopefully others will benefit from some positive silver linings, different, positive perspectives that you can share. Please xxx
OH and I have both been teachers. Both lost (well, I am likely to lose - still awaiting a decision) our job (because I could have allegedly known and not acted blah blah). Can't travel pretty much to most countries outside of EU as a family. Job opportunities are very limited. That's the collateral damage that I can seem to think of that's undoable... am I missing something? I'm not that bothered about reputation (been through enough due to this to care).
Luckily, there is the internet and one can do a lot of jobs online, no? That doesn't revolve around children.
The world isn't just Australia that we longed to move to...there are other countries to visit outside of US, Canada and New Zeland. Right? Surely?
I just so desperately need a bit of sunray in my life to tell me this isn't as bad as police, therapists and many people here (understably, cause this is depressing and life changing) think it is.
Hopefully others will benefit from some positive silver linings, different, positive perspectives that you can share. Please xxx
I'm shocked that you may lose your job. That shouldn't happen anymore as you can't be guilty by association. Have you got your union involved?
Either way, no it's not been too bad for us, travel is the main hindrance with the EU also likely closing to us with ETIAS
We live a nearly normal life, and I continue to work in management in children's safeguarding. We live as a family unit with our young children etc
Either way, no it's not been too bad for us, travel is the main hindrance with the EU also likely closing to us with ETIAS
We live a nearly normal life, and I continue to work in management in children's safeguarding. We live as a family unit with our young children etc
I second getting the union on board if you're part of one!! I'm a teacher, and one of the first things I was worried about was the impact to my job- my manager told me there and then I had absolutely nothing to worry about, so that's disgusting!
I believe Mexico is somewhere you can visit as you don't need a visa- I looked this up as its our favourite holiday destination. Just can't fly with TUI. I really recommend it.
Inthemoment it's good to hear about people living as family units again. The last 6 months living separate have been awful for both us and our daughter. I get so scared of SS keeping him away forever.
I believe Mexico is somewhere you can visit as you don't need a visa- I looked this up as its our favourite holiday destination. Just can't fly with TUI. I really recommend it.
Inthemoment it's good to hear about people living as family units again. The last 6 months living separate have been awful for both us and our daughter. I get so scared of SS keeping him away forever.
Inthemoment, what do you mean closure of EU due to ETIAS? Don't tell me we're stuck in this bloody country!!!
Unfortunately the ETIAS system will require disclosure of convictions for 10 years (20 for more serious ones) and will potentially mean that our men will be denied entry into most, if not all European countries.
I've pretty much given up on the idea of travelling abroad again, with him at least.
I've pretty much given up on the idea of travelling abroad again, with him at least.
