7 years in and still triggered
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Hi All, I’m so sorry to see all you new folks. Please take care and take things slowly. Put yourselves first.
I was pushed into this world 7 years ago. My full story is on here, and many many of my posts. This forum was my lifeline.
In summary, my husband of nearly 40 years and I, were married young and were not blessed with children but had happy life, or so I thought, until the knock came. It was a live Facebook sting with a decoy saying they were 13. He went to meet them. He was very late home and so when police called I thought he was dead. But it was, for me, worse. Both our safety was at risk, people knew before me and threats were there for both of us. He left straight away and my movements and details were shared amongst the keyboard warriors and some threats made towards me. I was very scared, and was out on immediate response list with police and had cameras placed around my house.
For those that are curious, he pleaded guilty and had a probation report which the judge took no notice of. He was sent to prison.
I am here today as I am feeling exactly as I was 7 years ago due to a new neighbour’s letter where he is, in writing, threatening me and confirming that he is ignoring my rights of access and writing malicious statements. It has totally triggered me. Made me feel very unsafe, on high alert, fight or flight response. I haven’t slept and am shaking.
I know that logically, I am in the right, and he has actually given me clear evidence of his intentions and more. It can be sorted. But the fact that I believe he knows what has happened to me, as he has mutual friends who lived here when it happened, makes me think he is treating me as less than, and maybe punishing me for my now ex husbands deeds.
I just wonder if any other people who occasionally pop on have any thoughts on this. And sadly say to you all, this horrid thing that has happened to us, never does seem to fully go away. X
I was pushed into this world 7 years ago. My full story is on here, and many many of my posts. This forum was my lifeline.
In summary, my husband of nearly 40 years and I, were married young and were not blessed with children but had happy life, or so I thought, until the knock came. It was a live Facebook sting with a decoy saying they were 13. He went to meet them. He was very late home and so when police called I thought he was dead. But it was, for me, worse. Both our safety was at risk, people knew before me and threats were there for both of us. He left straight away and my movements and details were shared amongst the keyboard warriors and some threats made towards me. I was very scared, and was out on immediate response list with police and had cameras placed around my house.
For those that are curious, he pleaded guilty and had a probation report which the judge took no notice of. He was sent to prison.
I am here today as I am feeling exactly as I was 7 years ago due to a new neighbour’s letter where he is, in writing, threatening me and confirming that he is ignoring my rights of access and writing malicious statements. It has totally triggered me. Made me feel very unsafe, on high alert, fight or flight response. I haven’t slept and am shaking.
I know that logically, I am in the right, and he has actually given me clear evidence of his intentions and more. It can be sorted. But the fact that I believe he knows what has happened to me, as he has mutual friends who lived here when it happened, makes me think he is treating me as less than, and maybe punishing me for my now ex husbands deeds.
I just wonder if any other people who occasionally pop on have any thoughts on this. And sadly say to you all, this horrid thing that has happened to us, never does seem to fully go away. X
I don't want this to bring people down. Generally I have a good life now with supportive friends and family. I have got to the point where I felt happy, happy to be independent and have forged a good life for myself. I had counselling and researched loads and other things to help us a group of unseen victims. This helped me process and reset.
I guess as I've come across a horrid person, and it's a man, I am triggered and both in fear and questioning myself.
I guess as I've come across a horrid person, and it's a man, I am triggered and both in fear and questioning myself.
Hello Tabs, and so sorry :( . I wonder if some gentle trauma therapy, like emdr, or somatic experiencing, for instance, might be helpful?
The body and psyche carry the original trauma and can be easily triggered .... PTSD is a real thing, so be kind to yourself.
Happy to hear your life is good otherwise.
Go well.
The body and psyche carry the original trauma and can be easily triggered .... PTSD is a real thing, so be kind to yourself.
Happy to hear your life is good otherwise.
Go well.
