I received the knock just over 6 weeks ago. Was for my husband of nearly 16 years. Shock, numbness, utter disbelief. Plus a few hundred more emotions followed the coming weeks.
This website and forum and chat help has been helpful with research and information and what's to come next.
I was told not to rush into decisions but feel all the facts and the uncertainty of the future has taken that choice from me. We have 4 young children together, two with extra needs. No matter what way I look at this, I can not support him through this process. The pain and confusion and also the security for me and my children will be too much. Plus the fact I'm solely responsible for them now and our home and everything I have to do everyday. The betrayal of this addiction I didn't know a thing about is just the hideous icing on the cake.

I've officially confirmed we are separated. im a carer and supporter of everyone and its my natural need to try and help him but this is one time in 15 years I can't. I have to say no and focus on me and the kids. I have literally had to put my feelings in another box.



admittedly the burden of not taking on his mental load any longer is a relief. Doesn't stop the guilt and heartache. Doesn't stop me being scared of what the new normal will be. I hope this is the right choice.