How to explain the crime to under 10s
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My ex husband was arrested last year and is awaiting crown court sentencing this month. Since the initial arrest we have been little in the nightmare limboland of no/limited contact for my two children.
My son in particular is struggling emotionally and I think what doesn't help is the sheer vagueness of why he isn't able to see his Dad.
He's aware he's broken a law and is waiting on the decision of the consequences.
I have searched hi and low... what age appropriate language is there to explain online sexual behaviour, to a child of under 10?
I think this would help him to accept the situation in a much healthier way rather than worry about what it could possibly be.
Any advice welcome.
Thank you
My ex husband was arrested last year and is awaiting crown court sentencing this month. Since the initial arrest we have been little in the nightmare limboland of no/limited contact for my two children.
My son in particular is struggling emotionally and I think what doesn't help is the sheer vagueness of why he isn't able to see his Dad.
He's aware he's broken a law and is waiting on the decision of the consequences.
I have searched hi and low... what age appropriate language is there to explain online sexual behaviour, to a child of under 10?
I think this would help him to accept the situation in a much healthier way rather than worry about what it could possibly be.
Any advice welcome.
Thank you
Hi,
there is a book called someone should have told me which is about keeping children safe online but also could be used to open up the dialogue a little around what your ex has done. It uses language like I wish someone had told me that if I type private words into my computer I might see private things. I hope this helps xxx
there is a book called someone should have told me which is about keeping children safe online but also could be used to open up the dialogue a little around what your ex has done. It uses language like I wish someone had told me that if I type private words into my computer I might see private things. I hope this helps xxx
Under the families impacted by a child/ young person's behaviour there are resources designed for this, I believe, although I haven't used them:
https://get-help.stopitnow.org.uk/family-and-friends/family-and-friends-forum/category/families-impacted-by-a-child-young-persons-online-sexual-behaviour
https://get-help.stopitnow.org.uk/family-and-friends/family-and-friends-forum/category/families-impacted-by-a-child-young-persons-online-sexual-behaviour
Some specific wording, phrases, to use, would be helpful to know!
Thank you, I'll request the book through the library that looks really helpful.
The link shared doesn't work - is there an alternative please?
Yes... specific phrases people have used for under 10s would be most welcome! I don't think my son would understand the term sexual abuse at all....
The link shared doesn't work - is there an alternative please?
Yes... specific phrases people have used for under 10s would be most welcome! I don't think my son would understand the term sexual abuse at all....
Dear Forum users,
When someone in the family is arrested for their online sexual behaviour, it can have a deep impact on everyone’s mental health—not just the adults, but young people too. Young people may feel confused and worried, struggling to make sense of what’s happened and how to cope. To help with this, we’ve created a new set of resources designed especially for young people navigating this difficult time. If this is something your family is going through, we hope these tools can offer comfort and practical help. This includes:
- A short animation that tells the story of a young person whose dad was arrested, and how she navigated her way through that difficult time. The story aims to offer hope to others.
Watch the animation here
- A young person’s workbook filled with creative activities, coping strategies, and space for reflection. It was co-written by the Lucy Faithfull Foundation and a young person with lived experience, sharing the skills and perspectives she learned from Shore, our online space for teenagers worried about sexual behaviours
Download the workbook here
- A parent guide to help caregivers support their children with empathy, honesty, and reassurance during this difficult time.
Access the parent guide here
These resources were developed with input from professionals and families who’ve been through this themselves. They’re here to help reduce stigma, build resilience, and encourage open conversations. If a young person in your family is feeling confused, unsure who to talk to, or just needs help making sense of their emotions, these tools can be a gentle starting point.
Any feedback on the new resources would be greatly appreciated to help us make sure it is as valuable as possible for those it has been created for.
This project was funded through the Ideas for Change Fund, which is funded by David Graham of Changing Ideas and managed by Inspiring Scotland.
Kind regards,
The Forum Team
This is the text from the link above xxx
When someone in the family is arrested for their online sexual behaviour, it can have a deep impact on everyone’s mental health—not just the adults, but young people too. Young people may feel confused and worried, struggling to make sense of what’s happened and how to cope. To help with this, we’ve created a new set of resources designed especially for young people navigating this difficult time. If this is something your family is going through, we hope these tools can offer comfort and practical help. This includes:
- A short animation that tells the story of a young person whose dad was arrested, and how she navigated her way through that difficult time. The story aims to offer hope to others.
Watch the animation here
- A young person’s workbook filled with creative activities, coping strategies, and space for reflection. It was co-written by the Lucy Faithfull Foundation and a young person with lived experience, sharing the skills and perspectives she learned from Shore, our online space for teenagers worried about sexual behaviours
Download the workbook here
- A parent guide to help caregivers support their children with empathy, honesty, and reassurance during this difficult time.
Access the parent guide here
These resources were developed with input from professionals and families who’ve been through this themselves. They’re here to help reduce stigma, build resilience, and encourage open conversations. If a young person in your family is feeling confused, unsure who to talk to, or just needs help making sense of their emotions, these tools can be a gentle starting point.
Any feedback on the new resources would be greatly appreciated to help us make sure it is as valuable as possible for those it has been created for.
This project was funded through the Ideas for Change Fund, which is funded by David Graham of Changing Ideas and managed by Inspiring Scotland.
Kind regards,
The Forum Team
This is the text from the link above xxx
The resources are pinned at the top of the forum feed called Familes impacted by a child/ young person's online sexual behaviour. Im not sure why as they are for children who are affected by an offenders behaviour so more relevant in this feed.
