Had to identify my daughter in images found
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I posted not long ago about having called the police after discovering concerning things on my person's device, and me carrying guilt for potentially blowing up our world / overreacting.
For reasons I can't go into, the forensic searches of seized devices were expedited very quickly.
Many images have been discovered, and I recently had to go through the nightmare of formally identifying my daughter in images (my persoms pre-teen step daughter that he has brought up since age three). Family and everyday normal photos that have been artificially doctored to make indecent.
I am devastated. Absolutely devastated to the point of insanity. My instincts that day served me well but I wish they had kicked in sooner! He was a NICE person!! An absolute upstanding, law enforcing, parent himself who would do anything for anyone. He would berate me for having songs on in the car with the kids if there was swear words in it. He would actively make a big deal about my daughter needing to cover up when she was little, even disapproved of her wearing belly tops as she got older. He made a big song and dance when any tv programmes or news reports came out about men doing this type of thing. He had A LOT to lose!!
I will never doubt my instincts again. Never ignore that voice. And certainly never believe any man ever again because my god, if he can wear a mask and put on a front like that, then any of them can, will and do!! They groom, lie and manipulate to such a high degree how do we ever stand a chance of keeping children away from this?
I cannot wait to get me and the kids past this and start over on our own. I want to breathe easily again! We deserve better!
For reasons I can't go into, the forensic searches of seized devices were expedited very quickly.
Many images have been discovered, and I recently had to go through the nightmare of formally identifying my daughter in images (my persoms pre-teen step daughter that he has brought up since age three). Family and everyday normal photos that have been artificially doctored to make indecent.
I am devastated. Absolutely devastated to the point of insanity. My instincts that day served me well but I wish they had kicked in sooner! He was a NICE person!! An absolute upstanding, law enforcing, parent himself who would do anything for anyone. He would berate me for having songs on in the car with the kids if there was swear words in it. He would actively make a big deal about my daughter needing to cover up when she was little, even disapproved of her wearing belly tops as she got older. He made a big song and dance when any tv programmes or news reports came out about men doing this type of thing. He had A LOT to lose!!
I will never doubt my instincts again. Never ignore that voice. And certainly never believe any man ever again because my god, if he can wear a mask and put on a front like that, then any of them can, will and do!! They groom, lie and manipulate to such a high degree how do we ever stand a chance of keeping children away from this?
I cannot wait to get me and the kids past this and start over on our own. I want to breathe easily again! We deserve better!
i m so sorry to read this, i can t imagine how painfull this must be for you :(
please don t beat yourself up for not noticing anything, there are forum users on here that worked in this field and still didn t see any signs in their partner to suspect they are offending.
it s been half a year for me since my person was arrested and i became aware what he s done. there is no week that i don t have moments where i m flooded with irrational hate towards all men, where i walk the streets and none of 'them' lets me pass with my baby daughter in the stroller. and i think how nice would the world look like if you would all just disapear
i see fathers in the pool with their daughters and feel like the way they re playing is not right. i m paranoid and see abuse and abusers everywhere :(
i hope you are proud of yourself, you really should be! wishing you and your children all the best and hope better days will come for you
please don t beat yourself up for not noticing anything, there are forum users on here that worked in this field and still didn t see any signs in their partner to suspect they are offending.
it s been half a year for me since my person was arrested and i became aware what he s done. there is no week that i don t have moments where i m flooded with irrational hate towards all men, where i walk the streets and none of 'them' lets me pass with my baby daughter in the stroller. and i think how nice would the world look like if you would all just disapear
i see fathers in the pool with their daughters and feel like the way they re playing is not right. i m paranoid and see abuse and abusers everywhere :(
i hope you are proud of yourself, you really should be! wishing you and your children all the best and hope better days will come for you