You should be able to add new supervisors but Social will probably have to run police checks on them.

Social services may be willing to reconsider you being able to supervise if you tell them you are no longer in a relationship together. Failing this, you should be able to have other people supervising as long as they are aware of why supervision it is needed and what it entails.

Id talk to your SS and request you are allowed to supervise. If they say no ask them why and then if there is a valid argument against what they say give it.



I have been allowed to supervise my husband. I didnt deny allegations but didnt exactly say he had done it either. I stayed neutral and said id wait for evidence but to be arrested meant something surely had happened (they didnt like thay responce and made my life hell but I was still allowed to supervise)

My ex initially had to be supervised by both me and one or both of his parents, which was a right faff. This despite me breaking up with him and being assessed as protective and SS closing the case very quickly. Six months in I contacted them again with a detailed safety plan and was immediately allowed to sole supervise (was just told by email!). My kids are preteens / teens which probably helped. Anyway, things in my safety plan which may have helped:

I pointed out that both my children's schools knew & that they were both involved in a number of clubs & hobbies, so they are very 'visible' children and will have contact with lots of unrelated adults trained in safeguarding.

I've been relatively open - family on both sides know & we have a small circle of family & friends in the know. My children know who knows & who they can talk to freely.

My children know the offences, the legal process etc.

Obviously it depends on the age of the children, but I think the above probably helped.

Contact children's services , I was told no at the start , but once his mum no longer wanted to do it due to health reasons I was allowed to. All they asked was if there was any abuse towards me which there wasn't.



I will say though, whilst I was happy to do it at the start as I knew my children were safe, I soon becaame tired of supervising , especially with someone I know to now be a narrcasitist and unable to take any responsibility. I found it draining, whilst trying to keep things civil but knowing this person had ruined my life and his children's was eating me up whilst denying / lying too.



we've been through family court and they actually expected me to carry on doing it!

That sounds like a good balance - we slowly transitioned to me doing the contact? But we had no support from children's services , school we're aware though so it's not like we didn't have people checking / aware!



hope you get sorted x