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I'm 18m in, the kids dad isn't allowed unsupervised contact and I'm not allowed to supervise yet I don't have any involment with social as they've signed me off. They are happy with me.
There are 3 people who can supervise, 1 isn't available much and another 1 now has other responsibilities meaning it's harder for them to nip round.
has anyone asked to change who can supervise before investigation has finished?
I'd like to request I supervise, I'm not sure why I wasn't allowed too. I have a feeling it was because I wasn't sure if the allegations were true or not. But now we aren't together, we just co parent (obviously he parents with supervision).
There are 3 people who can supervise, 1 isn't available much and another 1 now has other responsibilities meaning it's harder for them to nip round.
has anyone asked to change who can supervise before investigation has finished?
I'd like to request I supervise, I'm not sure why I wasn't allowed too. I have a feeling it was because I wasn't sure if the allegations were true or not. But now we aren't together, we just co parent (obviously he parents with supervision).
You should be able to add new supervisors but Social will probably have to run police checks on them.
Social services may be willing to reconsider you being able to supervise if you tell them you are no longer in a relationship together. Failing this, you should be able to have other people supervising as long as they are aware of why supervision it is needed and what it entails.
Id talk to your SS and request you are allowed to supervise. If they say no ask them why and then if there is a valid argument against what they say give it.
I have been allowed to supervise my husband. I didnt deny allegations but didnt exactly say he had done it either. I stayed neutral and said id wait for evidence but to be arrested meant something surely had happened (they didnt like thay responce and made my life hell but I was still allowed to supervise)
I have been allowed to supervise my husband. I didnt deny allegations but didnt exactly say he had done it either. I stayed neutral and said id wait for evidence but to be arrested meant something surely had happened (they didnt like thay responce and made my life hell but I was still allowed to supervise)
My ex initially had to be supervised by both me and one or both of his parents, which was a right faff. This despite me breaking up with him and being assessed as protective and SS closing the case very quickly. Six months in I contacted them again with a detailed safety plan and was immediately allowed to sole supervise (was just told by email!). My kids are preteens / teens which probably helped. Anyway, things in my safety plan which may have helped:
I pointed out that both my children's schools knew & that they were both involved in a number of clubs & hobbies, so they are very 'visible' children and will have contact with lots of unrelated adults trained in safeguarding.
I've been relatively open - family on both sides know & we have a small circle of family & friends in the know. My children know who knows & who they can talk to freely.
My children know the offences, the legal process etc.
Obviously it depends on the age of the children, but I think the above probably helped.
I pointed out that both my children's schools knew & that they were both involved in a number of clubs & hobbies, so they are very 'visible' children and will have contact with lots of unrelated adults trained in safeguarding.
I've been relatively open - family on both sides know & we have a small circle of family & friends in the know. My children know who knows & who they can talk to freely.
My children know the offences, the legal process etc.
Obviously it depends on the age of the children, but I think the above probably helped.
