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Hi,
I actually found the images on my ex partners old phone and reported it last Friday. He was arrested and released on bail that night. I have had no contact with him or his family since.
I have no idea how to navigate this. Safeguarding my 3 year old has been my priority but I feel like I'm not living reality. I want to feel angry but I am so numb and unsure of life.
the feeling of guilt is eating me up, and the fact there are so many brave people on this forum fills me with hope but sadness that we find ourselves here.
I don't want to feel so alone, and I don't want to feel so numb.
can anyone tell me the process and what to expect now? I have safeguarded my daughter in every possible way, but feel this is going to drag on for months and months.
any help or advice would be greatly appreciated x
I actually found the images on my ex partners old phone and reported it last Friday. He was arrested and released on bail that night. I have had no contact with him or his family since.
I have no idea how to navigate this. Safeguarding my 3 year old has been my priority but I feel like I'm not living reality. I want to feel angry but I am so numb and unsure of life.
the feeling of guilt is eating me up, and the fact there are so many brave people on this forum fills me with hope but sadness that we find ourselves here.
I don't want to feel so alone, and I don't want to feel so numb.
can anyone tell me the process and what to expect now? I have safeguarded my daughter in every possible way, but feel this is going to drag on for months and months.
any help or advice would be greatly appreciated x
Sorry you find yourself here.
If you need answers now the helpline would be well worth a call this morning. They will listen not judge and offer support guidance etc.
Unfortunately it's a long process some areas longer than other to get devices back etc. Try not to think too far ahead. Just take one day at a time and look after yourself to.
Do you have support from family/friends?
My situation was different to yours but just wanted you to know you are not alone.
If you need answers now the helpline would be well worth a call this morning. They will listen not judge and offer support guidance etc.
Unfortunately it's a long process some areas longer than other to get devices back etc. Try not to think too far ahead. Just take one day at a time and look after yourself to.
Do you have support from family/friends?
My situation was different to yours but just wanted you to know you are not alone.
Well done for reaching out. I'm so sorry to see another new person here.....but you are very welcome and the forum is there when you need support. We may not all be in the exact same boat but we're all weathering the same storm.
You have absolutely done the right thing, and I appreciate how hard that must have been for you to do. I'm so proud of you.
You have had a very big shock; life has changed very suddenly and will be very uncertain, your feelings will be all over the place. This is totally normal so is the numb feeling; it's often a way to protect ourselves from our emotions. Everybody is different and cope in different ways.
Be kind to yourself, know that you area a fantastic and protective mother and have absolutely done the right thing. You should never have been put in the situation where you had to make the choices you have done.
Many people have described their journeys as traumatic, or similar to the stages of grief. The numb feeling won't last forever; you just haven't processed everything properly and that will likely take time and understanding.
Try to protect your mental health, look after yourself. Try to eat even small things if you can, short walks outdoors to clear your head. Try to rest....lots of cups of tea! You may find talking it through or seeking more support helps (the helpline or therapist, your GP could help make counselling referral, it just reaching out on the forum). Sometimes reading some of the resources or doing the inform course cm help you understand more around the process and how these things happen.
I remember trying to adjust in the early days, and you just try get through them a day at a time and eventually you do find a new normal.
Giant virtual hugs
You have absolutely done the right thing, and I appreciate how hard that must have been for you to do. I'm so proud of you.
You have had a very big shock; life has changed very suddenly and will be very uncertain, your feelings will be all over the place. This is totally normal so is the numb feeling; it's often a way to protect ourselves from our emotions. Everybody is different and cope in different ways.
Be kind to yourself, know that you area a fantastic and protective mother and have absolutely done the right thing. You should never have been put in the situation where you had to make the choices you have done.
Many people have described their journeys as traumatic, or similar to the stages of grief. The numb feeling won't last forever; you just haven't processed everything properly and that will likely take time and understanding.
Try to protect your mental health, look after yourself. Try to eat even small things if you can, short walks outdoors to clear your head. Try to rest....lots of cups of tea! You may find talking it through or seeking more support helps (the helpline or therapist, your GP could help make counselling referral, it just reaching out on the forum). Sometimes reading some of the resources or doing the inform course cm help you understand more around the process and how these things happen.
I remember trying to adjust in the early days, and you just try get through them a day at a time and eventually you do find a new normal.
Giant virtual hugs
Some very good advice, and such kindness in the previous posts.
I too am so sorry you are here.
Keep reaching out. I found my friends on here. None of my previous friends know anything...it is the women I have found on here who have kept me sane.
Sending you a virtual hug xx
I too am so sorry you are here.
Keep reaching out. I found my friends on here. None of my previous friends know anything...it is the women I have found on here who have kept me sane.
Sending you a virtual hug xx
It can be a long process depending on the area. Do not expect any updates from police though.
The investigation for us took 6 months. Then from investigation to final court was anothet 6 months. Which was very quick compared to other people on this forum. Ours was fast traced because I have PPD.
The investigation for us took 6 months. Then from investigation to final court was anothet 6 months. Which was very quick compared to other people on this forum. Ours was fast traced because I have PPD.
