Shutting my brain up.
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7 months post knock. Been managing my anxiety really well the last couple of months, thanks to a combination of family support, antidepressants, therapy, exercise and self care. Not doom scrolling the forums has been a big help too. But yesterday we were updated that OH's devices are second in the queue to be downloaded, and now I cannot for the life of me switch off my stupid brain. Those words are swirling round and round my head non stop 'second in the queue'. It could be weeks, or even days now. Or it could still be months. The lack of certainty feels like it's literally driving me mad. If anyone has any tips to help shut my stupid brain up, I'd be most appreciative as my usual distractions aren't working
Aw goodness I can imagine that is torture, you would have been better off not knowing as the wait is bad enough without that breadcrumb with no extra information regarding a timeframe. Not sure what you have been doing so far. Potentially try meditation, or if it's when you are trying to sleep (worst time for me) I put on white noise...Currently a really noisy can do I don't have brain power to think. I also use Alexa playing rain sounds of rainforest sounds. Also discovered that when I am doing house work or maybe driving where you aren't necessarily working singing out loud helps as it's harder to think and sing at the same time. I know prob look like a mad woman to others but it's helping my sanity just now. Fingers crossed the line at them soon and you can move to the next step. Take care x
Well, after adding the above message my ex OH has just arrived for his supervised visit with the kids and just told me police called him to tell him that his devices have been started on by forensics but two of the devices have been corrupted. Ex explained he has never done this so he looked online for the police for codes to be able to uncorrupt it which police thanked him for.
So now a waiting game for the next stage, not sure how to feel as ex was quite matter of fact about it all so hoping there will be no further surprises apart from what he told police / me for me to deal with. Just wish this nightmare of uncertainty would be over!!
So now a waiting game for the next stage, not sure how to feel as ex was quite matter of fact about it all so hoping there will be no further surprises apart from what he told police / me for me to deal with. Just wish this nightmare of uncertainty would be over!!
Music is ehat got me through. I just turned it up and sang along terribly. If I was singing I couldnt think.
I had SS telling me the police where trying to crash his phone from February 2025 until June 2025. And trying to convince me because the police where struggling to find out and tell them to "save time" as they could be struggling for many more months. Making me panic for months about it but I kept refusing because I refuse to be cohersed by anyone ever! Well it was all lies, forensics got it in February and it was just sat there in the que. It was run end of June. They called him into second interview in August and in October he pleaded guilty. So be prepared that they may want a second interview it depends if anything is found or not.
But music is what got me through. I couldnt do silence at all. The TV had to be on or my headphones in or my brain just spiraled. I stil spiral but its more over uncertainty and I dont cope with uncertainty
I had SS telling me the police where trying to crash his phone from February 2025 until June 2025. And trying to convince me because the police where struggling to find out and tell them to "save time" as they could be struggling for many more months. Making me panic for months about it but I kept refusing because I refuse to be cohersed by anyone ever! Well it was all lies, forensics got it in February and it was just sat there in the que. It was run end of June. They called him into second interview in August and in October he pleaded guilty. So be prepared that they may want a second interview it depends if anything is found or not.
But music is what got me through. I couldnt do silence at all. The TV had to be on or my headphones in or my brain just spiraled. I stil spiral but its more over uncertainty and I dont cope with uncertainty
