Do i tell my friends the truth?
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Been with my husband for more than 25 years and my world collapsed 9 months ago when i got the knock. He was arrsested for speaking to a 14 year boy online. He is currently on bail and under investigation. My stbx claims his innocencent but i just don't know. I ended it there and then innocent or not innocent. I have not told anyone the real reason for the split. We have a large circle of friends and they all think he is lovely. I can't blame them as i thought he was lovely before his arrest too. He is now with someone else. Pretty much ghosted me and he left for me dead!! I fear what's to come and if my friends will forgive me for not telling them. I could end up with no friends too because of him and his actions. This man has made me so ill ???? I'm anxious and over thinker which really does not help. Not sure i can get over this ever or trust anyone????
Its up to you who you tell when, but anyone who drops you as a friend because of something your ex did behind your back isn't actually a friend and isn't someone you want in your life.
I told a small circle of very close friends, in strict confidence. They were all entirely supportive. But I wouldn't have grieved over anyone who wasn't TBH. They would be no loss.
I told a small circle of very close friends, in strict confidence. They were all entirely supportive. But I wouldn't have grieved over anyone who wasn't TBH. They would be no loss.
I would have said be careful who you tell as you can't take it back. But as you are no longer with him and you have done absolutely nothing wrong I would be open with your friends. As already said if they dump you then they weren't really a friend. I only told my closest friend whilst I was still going through it but once he went to prison and it was all over local press and on FB I told others. Some dumped me - or unfriendined on FB - some were nasty online. But although it hurt at the time I really don't give 2 shits now. Surround yourself with good friends and they will support you. I now divorced and will tell anyone what happened to me - it's old news and I have a new life to live and I don't care what anyone else thinks.
Be strong x
Be strong x
