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I am new to this forum. And I don't even know where or how to start. I am very concerned and worried mum. Going out of my mind. Trying to protect my child , battle the legal system and protect my own peace and wellbeing at the same time. Which is extremely hard considering circumstances. To explain my situation. It all happened around 7 month ago. It is so upsetting for me and make me anxious every time. Early hours of morning police came to my house, alarmed me and my son extremely. They said they have search varant , our internet Ip address tracked to my child name, house watching indecent images online. They seezed all the devices. They are still looking through things, and reviewing staff. I have a very good solicitor on my side handling things and having our corner. I can swear on my husband life, why has passed less that 3 years ago. My child is good, decent, smart and intelligent young person .16 at time when happened, now 17. I am good , intelligent person too wise working hard to make things better both in life and work. I know there is difference how system treats under age person. And they are not interested to lock anyone up. Rather educate Andrea h about online safety. I know every case is different . However I believe in this group there are many people been or are the same situation. As where we ardd ed right now still waiting for review to be done. So far voluntary interview. However I am super anxious about the whole thing. I can't sleep at night properly, my work focus suffers from that. My child struggles with his learning, I worry about his mental health too. It is just so overwhelming . I try my BR's tv to keep it all together for his sake. But I am his Mum, my child is my everything. I can't let any harm come his way. The wait and not knowing in incruciating. I join with this group with hope that other parents can share their stories and experiences. How they coped, how they handled things, how the process was,where they are now. Please as parent to parent, help me to put my mind at ease a bit????????????????. I don't know where else I can talk about this . I do hope I have come to the right place for this.
I am new to this forum. And I don't even know where or how to start. I am very concerned and worried mum. Going out of my mind. Trying to protect my child , battle the legal system and protect my own peace and wellbeing at the same time. Which is extremely hard considering circumstances. To explain my situation. It all happened around 7 month ago. It is so upsetting for me and make me anxious every time. Early hours of morning police came to my house, alarmed me and my son extremely. They said they have search varant , our internet Ip address tracked to my child name, house watching indecent images online. They seezed all the devices. They are still looking through things, and reviewing staff. I have a very good solicitor on my side handling things and having our corner. I can swear on my husband life, why has passed less that 3 years ago. My child is good, decent, smart and intelligent young person .16 at time when happened, now 17. I am good , intelligent person too wise working hard to make things better both in life and work. I know there is difference how system treats under age person. And they are not interested to lock anyone up. Rather educate Andrea h about online safety. I know every case is different . However I believe in this group there are many people been or are the same situation. As where we ardd ed right now still waiting for review to be done. So far voluntary interview. However I am super anxious about the whole thing. I can't sleep at night properly, my work focus suffers from that. My child struggles with his learning, I worry about his mental health too. It is just so overwhelming . I try my BR's tv to keep it all together for his sake. But I am his Mum, my child is my everything. I can't let any harm come his way. The wait and not knowing in incruciating. I join with this group with hope that other parents can share their stories and experiences. How they coped, how they handled things, how the process was,where they are now. Please as parent to parent, help me to put my mind at ease a bit????????????????. I don't know where else I can talk about this . I do hope I have come to the right place for this.
You have come to the right place, indeed. You will find many posts from people in similar situation to yours, and hopefully some of them will give you hope and strength.
I’m so sorry to know you’ve been struggling through all of this on your own for seven long months. That’s an enormous weight for any mum to carry. My circumstances are a little different in that my son was a few years older than yours, but the core of it is the same, when you love your child with that deep, unconditional love, their pain becomes your pain. You feel every moment right alongside them.
There’s no easy way of getting through something like this. It really is a case of taking one day at a time, being gentle with yourself, and reaching out for support. If you haven't already done so you could consider contacting the helpline and your GP. You don’t have to shoulder this alone, there are people out there who can help you.
Life may feel unbearably hard for both of you right now, but in time things will begin to feel easier and you'll start to feel as if you can breathe again.
There’s no easy way of getting through something like this. It really is a case of taking one day at a time, being gentle with yourself, and reaching out for support. If you haven't already done so you could consider contacting the helpline and your GP. You don’t have to shoulder this alone, there are people out there who can help you.
Life may feel unbearably hard for both of you right now, but in time things will begin to feel easier and you'll start to feel as if you can breathe again.
Hello Wonder Woman,
I felt every word of this. We are out the other side now but I very much remember the early days of confusion and despair. It will be over some day and things will be better/ a new normal will be found.
Please feel free to message me if you need to/ want any advice etc...
We had a very good outcome x
Thinking of you xxx
I felt every word of this. We are out the other side now but I very much remember the early days of confusion and despair. It will be over some day and things will be better/ a new normal will be found.
Please feel free to message me if you need to/ want any advice etc...
We had a very good outcome x
Thinking of you xxx
Hi there
Felt every word of this. My sons case is with the CPS right now. It's unbearably stressful as you know. For me I just try and get through every day by thinking that at some point it will conclude and we will work out how me move forwards.
Try and eat and sleep, as hard as it is. And think, it will pass. Sending you best wishes x
Felt every word of this. My sons case is with the CPS right now. It's unbearably stressful as you know. For me I just try and get through every day by thinking that at some point it will conclude and we will work out how me move forwards.
Try and eat and sleep, as hard as it is. And think, it will pass. Sending you best wishes x
100% relate to this. It's heartbreaking and soul destroying watching your child go through this. Especially brutal for those who've just crossed over to 18 and treated as an adult. Pain and sadness is so hard. I try ro keep the hope and belief it will get better and they will get through with our love and support. But the longer it goes on (9 months in for us) the harder it gets to keep believing that. One thing that does help get me through at times is the anger at the system and my determination to do something about this and shine a light on it when it's over and I helpfully have more strength! Take it easy. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to face.
Thank You all the wonderful, incredible and powerful Mama bears out there. I truly appreciate all your support at the super tromendously difficult times. I am is shock actually how many similar cases like our is here. I totally agree that sometimes has to be done. Like one off you lovely Ladies said. Once it is over do something to change the system and help young people. Using all that anger towards something good as a tool for change. I have battled a lot since my husband passed, nearly 3 years on now. As Mums why may be single Mums , you ll understand. It is so physically and mentally draining to deal with these kind of alligations. When you know Your child is innocent. Then they try to mess with your head and convince you , not even know your child. I t is heartbreaking for any mum to watch your child go through these challenges. So my heart goes out for all of you Incredible Ladies holding it all together for your children. Because, it takes every ounce of your Body and strength. The worst part is waiting, dragging, not knowing, them feeling superior over your life. As a Mums our natural instinct is protect our babies. And situations like this I ask , what else I can do? What if the fabricating something, wen it ll end, I don even know how I ll handle the interview. I am filled with range and despair. And this is not the first time I have dealt with them. I am not gonna take this and neither should any other Mum. I believe there is power in women & community. And something must change. I want to design programs to help young people to express their emotions, anger, grief, trauma,stress through Art. Something has to be done. Now I trust my solicitor, she is very good lady. So that is a big relief on my end. There is so much good things going on for my son & me. And we are in building and growing stage. And then there is this thing, casting dark shadow over our lives. Like we can't breat properly. Yes, I try to release my emotions in my Art, Gym. In helps my son too. I just pray this night mare is over rather sooner than later. I try to carry on with my life best I can. However some days panic and worry hits so hard. Head is full of horrific scenarios.I am sure all of you as being loving, caring Mums could relate. I am sorry to blab away so much. But is has been a lot, and nobody else would understand ????.
Can anyone share their success stories please . I need to hear something positive.
How long was your process? Till call for interview and waiting for CPs if it comes to that.
Thank You everyone from the bottom of my heart.
Can anyone share their success stories please . I need to hear something positive.
How long was your process? Till call for interview and waiting for CPs if it comes to that.
Thank You everyone from the bottom of my heart.
