It has been a couple of months since my dad was arrested and we found out about his online offences. He won't go into detail about it and says he doesn't remember a lot of it, but I think I'd be naive to believe that at face value.

I'm finding this experience insanely lonely so far. Like I have this big secret hanging over me and am scared to tell anyone anything because their view of me or my dad might change. I want to protect him from that, he has been an amazing dad and the last person I would have expected this from.

We don't know what will happen down the line, not least because we as family don't actually know the extend of his crime right now. I do know it has been going on for over 5 years and involves AI (most but not all). He has not directly contacted anyone u18 as far as I know currently.

My biggest worry right now is that I'm planning to start a family next year and know this will have an impact, but don't know exactly what. My parents live together currently and I know my mum will not let anything affect her being the grandma she wants to be which could even mean them living separately at some point or another, which right now they do not want to do as my dad is extremely low & thankfully in therapy.

I am basically wondering if anyone else is in a similar position where they are still in contact with the offender, and how things are working out. Maybe ways I can start processing what has happened.