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My ex son-in-law finally found sense and accepted the revised financial settlement so the house can be now be secured for my daughter and her 3 kids.
It's been a long haul and he's put her through tough and challenging times.
What I didn't realise in Scotland you can't get divorced until the children's welfare and contact is sorted.
Given he has until September 2027 to serve out his restrictions we're still not out of the woods yet.
Anyway one hurdle obtained.
To all who are going through this keep fighting and hold your heads up high as non of this was your fault.
Take care xx
It's been a long haul and he's put her through tough and challenging times.
What I didn't realise in Scotland you can't get divorced until the children's welfare and contact is sorted.
Given he has until September 2027 to serve out his restrictions we're still not out of the woods yet.
Anyway one hurdle obtained.
To all who are going through this keep fighting and hold your heads up high as non of this was your fault.
Take care xx
That is one of the biggest worries I had for divorce....that he'd make me sell the house or I'd be trapped maintaining and living in a home he was entitled to half of. I felt it was very unfair his actions had destroyed our future but he'd still get entitled to my future finances that he hasn't helped build.
I would always recommend financial separation too; unfortunately I discovered during the divorce; his online activities weren't all he was hiding-he had made some very bad financial decisions with debt and credit cards. I as the saver (and the only person employed at the time as he lost his job due to arrest) would have to bail him out and he'd still be entitled to half of everything i currently had plus my future pension, inheritance etc.
thankfully he agreed without too much of a fight.
I would always recommend financial separation too; unfortunately I discovered during the divorce; his online activities weren't all he was hiding-he had made some very bad financial decisions with debt and credit cards. I as the saver (and the only person employed at the time as he lost his job due to arrest) would have to bail him out and he'd still be entitled to half of everything i currently had plus my future pension, inheritance etc.
thankfully he agreed without too much of a fight.
My children were older so didn't figure in the divorce. I wanted a clean split so paid for a minute of agreement to protect myself. Not sure if this is just a Scottish legal thing.
