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Ann P

Member since
February 2020

169 posts

Posted Wed March 4, 2020 10:10amReport post

Yesterday my husband finally disclosed his conviction to our grown up children. They were initially very supportive, so much so he broke down and cried. And so did I. I am hoping their support continues once they've had time to process it all. It was probably the hardest and most draining part of this whole thing, even including that first knock. As grown up as they all are, my first instinct is to shield them from anything hurtful and I felt like I'd thrown a grenade at them.

We are near the end now, just waiting for sentencing and praying it's not custodial and the media hounds don't get us.



Be strong today everyone and get through no matter where you are in this horrendous journey.

mjl73

Member since
August 2019

240 posts

Posted Wed March 4, 2020 10:22amReport post

I am so pleased for you that he finally took responsibility and told them so you didn't have to. Must be a huge weight off your mind that they were supportive.

Ann P

Member since
February 2020

169 posts

Posted Wed March 4, 2020 10:31amReport post

mjl73

It's a relief to have got it over with and I respect him for taking responsibility for it. He did it alone and I only came in on the conversation when he couldn't. I just hope as they have time to think about it that can still be supportive but you never know and we made it clear that if they want to walk away temporarily or permanently that's something we won't like but will understand. They all have the helpline number and I really hope they use it

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Wed March 4, 2020 11:43amReport post

Ann I am relieved for you that they know and also he stepped up from this mess and finally told them something you have been wanting him to do for a while. Now they know you can support each other rather than you dealing with this in your own. It's probably a massive step forward for you. Who knows what the next few weeks will hold for you and family but we will be here supporting you! X

Ann P

Member since
February 2020

169 posts

Posted Wed March 4, 2020 6:43pmReport post

Summer thank you for your kind and positive words of support. It means so much x x

SallyBlue

Member since
March 2019

252 posts

Posted Thu March 5, 2020 3:29pmReport post

I am so pleased he had the courage to tell your children. No matter what their ages are that mothering instinct to protect never leaves you. That extra weight will have been lifted off of you, the burden of keeping secrets is so hard. X

Ann P

Member since
February 2020

169 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 9:13pmReport post

Thank you for your kind thoughts everyone it helps. I'm still unsure going forward especially if having our grandchildren stay over presents a problem which will be hard to take. At least if social services make contact with my daughters who have the youngest children they will be prepared.

Thank you all x x