Why??
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Did anyone ever get any answers to why. Im nearly 1 month post phonecall.. My brother was offender so the call was from the police asking if i could provide bail address.. He has admitted to everything says its been going on for years. Sexual chat with teenage boys, sending and receiving pics. (Hes married with 2 kids) Ive been in a frantic state for 1 month. Disbelief, anger, scared. I cannot believe he has done this. I just have so many questions. Why was it not enough to be doing this with adult men. How did he not think in this day and age he was gonna get caught!! Like how can someone be soo smart but yet so stupid all in one. How did he not think of any repercussions... the fall out from this is pages long. Why did he not get help the minute he crossed a line! I am so so bitter ive been thrust into this life because of his choices and none of mine!
I am soo tired. I am completly drowning and im only 3.5 weeks in. I cant imagine this life for years.
I am soo tired. I am completly drowning and im only 3.5 weeks in. I cant imagine this life for years.
First of all I am so sorry for you that you are here. I couldn't read your post and not respond although I don't have much of an answer as to the why. I'm not sure any of us will ever fully understand the why, or have that question answered but for myself I found the Inform course with LFF to be excellent in helping me understand that the reasons are many and mostly very complex. I certainly came away from the course with a far better understanding of how a person we love and know inside out could go down such a dark path.
It is early days for you. For myself the helpline was a lifesaver in those early days. They will listen, and offer advice where they can.
And keep reaching out on here. I found friends on here who have kept me going on this nightmare journey. You won't believe it right now but things do get better.
It is early days for you. For myself the helpline was a lifesaver in those early days. They will listen, and offer advice where they can.
And keep reaching out on here. I found friends on here who have kept me going on this nightmare journey. You won't believe it right now but things do get better.
Really feel for you and totally understand the rage. I'm surprised more people don't seem to feel that way - who would want to be touched by this world? Most men I read about claim they don't know. I think it's Occam's Razor. What that obvious answer is would vary but I think many are involved in this mess because they enjoy it, which is gross and difficult to comprehend and seems an unpopular interpretation.
