Being taken to court for access
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Anyone experience with the affects on the child when protective parent is taken to court for access?
Ex was removed from home at door knock when child was aged 2. Charged and went to crown court. 2 yrs probation. 5 yrs Spo and SOR. Child now 7 and not had any in person access in two years. Does not ask about it and happy. Interviewed by risk assessor and said I wasn't happy due to child being so content and that this opens a huge can of worms but they've assessed him as low risk due to online images/videos in the hundreds rather thousands.
Life has moved on and new partner who is a dad to child and yet it looks like judge will grant Supervised Access.
Has anyone successfully fought this? I'm so very conscious of childs mental health, who has no understanding of what has gone on and surely this will raise questions. I know we have to tell them at some point but how does life get better for them with a sex offender in the picture?
Ex was removed from home at door knock when child was aged 2. Charged and went to crown court. 2 yrs probation. 5 yrs Spo and SOR. Child now 7 and not had any in person access in two years. Does not ask about it and happy. Interviewed by risk assessor and said I wasn't happy due to child being so content and that this opens a huge can of worms but they've assessed him as low risk due to online images/videos in the hundreds rather thousands.
Life has moved on and new partner who is a dad to child and yet it looks like judge will grant Supervised Access.
Has anyone successfully fought this? I'm so very conscious of childs mental health, who has no understanding of what has gone on and surely this will raise questions. I know we have to tell them at some point but how does life get better for them with a sex offender in the picture?
I would talk to a family solicitor if you can.
Yes, we have been with a family solicitor and £7000+ in fees so far. The case is ongoing.
I wanted to know about people's experiences and how it went for the child?
I wanted to know about people's experiences and how it went for the child?
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
I don't have much in the way of advice but I too am in this situation both with my ex and with his parents. If you ever need to vent then my messages are open.
It's abusive, and not in the best interest of your child when they are happy and content without him in their life
I don't have much in the way of advice but I too am in this situation both with my ex and with his parents. If you ever need to vent then my messages are open.
It's abusive, and not in the best interest of your child when they are happy and content without him in their life
So sorry you're in this horrible situation.
You just can't win. My child was older and already had a strong relationship with their father so the opposite was true for me in that I knew my child would struggle if contact was cut completely so I wanted to ensure supervised could still happen. Social services tried to escalate to CPP and threatened PLO and I was told to get a solicitor by social services for fighting for this on my child's behalf. They said that if I stopped all contact then there would be zero risk and they'd step out of my child's life immediately. This was even before we knew if there would be any charges.
Hopefully someone else will be along with first hand experience for this situation. If you believe that your child won't be safe, or are unwilling/unable to supervise please continue to speak for your child. You are their protective parent; you know them better than anyone so your expertise as the protective parent should be taken into Consideration .
Best of luck and stay strong.
You just can't win. My child was older and already had a strong relationship with their father so the opposite was true for me in that I knew my child would struggle if contact was cut completely so I wanted to ensure supervised could still happen. Social services tried to escalate to CPP and threatened PLO and I was told to get a solicitor by social services for fighting for this on my child's behalf. They said that if I stopped all contact then there would be zero risk and they'd step out of my child's life immediately. This was even before we knew if there would be any charges.
Hopefully someone else will be along with first hand experience for this situation. If you believe that your child won't be safe, or are unwilling/unable to supervise please continue to speak for your child. You are their protective parent; you know them better than anyone so your expertise as the protective parent should be taken into Consideration .
Best of luck and stay strong.
Thank you so much for all your advice.
Risk removed from home when door knock happened when she was 2. She is now 7 and has no knowledge whatsoever of what has gone on. Due to him taking us to court for access and he's just recently been deemed low risk by a foresic psychologist, (images weren't in thousands and it was downloading and possession). The likelihood is supervised contact. But this is going to raise so many questions on her part.
We've been told we'll need to tell her at some point as it was a big case and if she googles his name she'll easily find it. So we know the truth is coming but because we've avoided trauma for her (we've been through the things that she woud find traumatic, we've moved home and schools) and she's adjusted brilliantly and very happy and content. Does not ask questions about him and has a father figure in her life who she adores. I know every case is so unique but when a judge has to weigh this all up I reckon she'll most likely go with the law in Northern ireland that in terms of her welfare, she's unlikely to come to physical harm seeing him but it's mentally what this will do to her at such a young age.
It's really tough. Never mind the legal fees I'm paying while he his legal aid. It is brutal.
Risk removed from home when door knock happened when she was 2. She is now 7 and has no knowledge whatsoever of what has gone on. Due to him taking us to court for access and he's just recently been deemed low risk by a foresic psychologist, (images weren't in thousands and it was downloading and possession). The likelihood is supervised contact. But this is going to raise so many questions on her part.
We've been told we'll need to tell her at some point as it was a big case and if she googles his name she'll easily find it. So we know the truth is coming but because we've avoided trauma for her (we've been through the things that she woud find traumatic, we've moved home and schools) and she's adjusted brilliantly and very happy and content. Does not ask questions about him and has a father figure in her life who she adores. I know every case is so unique but when a judge has to weigh this all up I reckon she'll most likely go with the law in Northern ireland that in terms of her welfare, she's unlikely to come to physical harm seeing him but it's mentally what this will do to her at such a young age.
It's really tough. Never mind the legal fees I'm paying while he his legal aid. It is brutal.
