4 & a 1/2 years and still waiting!
Notifications OFF
April 2022 - Knock - Interview and released pending furthur investigate.
October 2023 - Email to police asking for update as heard nothing, told original police officer moved department. Told devices returned and preparing file for CPS, should hear in a few weeks.
2024 - NOT A WORD FROM ANYONE
July 2025 - Email from police saying they are just "checking in" asked about living arrangements and file is ready for CPS (again!)
July 2026 - Email again (different police offer again) requesting update on circumstances.
Advised by a "friend" that the 2 police officers dealing with case has resigned and now another new one has taken!
NOW - We have finally instructed a solicitor to deal with this. Can't take any more it's been 4 1/2 years and now they're Threatening to tell my son my husband stepson that his child is going to be put under social services as safeguarding, If the police had done their job 4 1/2 years ago, my grandson wouldn't have even been born. He's two years old. I have absolutely no concern regarding him and my husband. My husband admitted to his charge for ONE month of his life he lost his way and ended up in this boat.
4 1/2 years is taking its toll and I just don't know where to go from here any more! has anyone else been in this situation where it has taken such a long time ? It was category C Pictures ???? my husband didn't request a solicitor at the original interview as he didn't really understand the severity of category C pictures at the time and thought that he could deal with this himself, he has autism which isn't an excuse but does explain his decision for not agreeing to representation at interview!
any advice will be greatly received thank you in advance.
October 2023 - Email to police asking for update as heard nothing, told original police officer moved department. Told devices returned and preparing file for CPS, should hear in a few weeks.
2024 - NOT A WORD FROM ANYONE
July 2025 - Email from police saying they are just "checking in" asked about living arrangements and file is ready for CPS (again!)
July 2026 - Email again (different police offer again) requesting update on circumstances.
Advised by a "friend" that the 2 police officers dealing with case has resigned and now another new one has taken!
NOW - We have finally instructed a solicitor to deal with this. Can't take any more it's been 4 1/2 years and now they're Threatening to tell my son my husband stepson that his child is going to be put under social services as safeguarding, If the police had done their job 4 1/2 years ago, my grandson wouldn't have even been born. He's two years old. I have absolutely no concern regarding him and my husband. My husband admitted to his charge for ONE month of his life he lost his way and ended up in this boat.
4 1/2 years is taking its toll and I just don't know where to go from here any more! has anyone else been in this situation where it has taken such a long time ? It was category C Pictures ???? my husband didn't request a solicitor at the original interview as he didn't really understand the severity of category C pictures at the time and thought that he could deal with this himself, he has autism which isn't an excuse but does explain his decision for not agreeing to representation at interview!
any advice will be greatly received thank you in advance.
Awful :(
Is the solicitor one that specialises in these sorts of cases?
Is the solicitor one that specialises in these sorts of cases?
Shocking, but not surprising. The justice system is such a mess and officers leaving is the most common explanation for the cases that take over 3 years. There have been a few on here.
I would suggest writing to the local police and crime commissioner, or to your MP. A long time ago, I used to work in an office that dealt with MPs complaint letters and I know they are taken very seriously indeed and given top priority.
I would suggest writing to the local police and crime commissioner, or to your MP. A long time ago, I used to work in an office that dealt with MPs complaint letters and I know they are taken very seriously indeed and given top priority.
Thanks for your replies.
Yes the solicitor foes specialise in this sort of case.
Have broken the news today to my mum as I just couldn't hold it in anymore, she is very supportive and like us just doesn't understand why it is taking so long to deal with.
We have also just returned from telling my son, i am heartbroken ???? he is upset we didn't tell him when it first happened or after my grandson was born ... i have messaged him saying i think i have been in denial and thought it would just go away! He is going to tell my daughter-in-law tonight, i don't think i will be seeing them again .... even though I know there is absolutely no risk to my grandson whatsoever. If i have to choose between my son and my husband is going yo break me but my son comes first!
i am so tired, so heartbroken and so frustrated this is still on going. I just want to sleep !!!
Yes the solicitor foes specialise in this sort of case.
Have broken the news today to my mum as I just couldn't hold it in anymore, she is very supportive and like us just doesn't understand why it is taking so long to deal with.
We have also just returned from telling my son, i am heartbroken ???? he is upset we didn't tell him when it first happened or after my grandson was born ... i have messaged him saying i think i have been in denial and thought it would just go away! He is going to tell my daughter-in-law tonight, i don't think i will be seeing them again .... even though I know there is absolutely no risk to my grandson whatsoever. If i have to choose between my son and my husband is going yo break me but my son comes first!
i am so tired, so heartbroken and so frustrated this is still on going. I just want to sleep !!!
I'm so sorry it is taken so long. I'm in Scotland although I thought it was taking ages I now realise it was much quicker as our knock wasn't long after yours. One of the reasons I left was because of my adult children. I couldn't face the rest of my life not being involved in theirs. If I had stayed they would have distanced themselves because of their father. We are caught in the middle and sadly have to make these choices.
3 and half year from knock to NFA. They ruined our health and life finding nothing
Fortunately my son & daughter-in-law have agreed to me still seeing my grandson at their house only. I am just so relieved they are not 'punishing' me by banning contact. The thing my son is most angry about is that I didn't tell him when his stepdad was first arrested, how could I? Solicitor appointment tomorrow so hopefully we can get some answers to why it's taking so long and as you why our emails to the police are going unanswered!!!
Your son will be in shock at hearing about it, just as you were back when it happened. Give him time, he will come round. Instinctively he and his wife protect their child and lash out at you..it is already changing tho, so good on them! It may change again as they process things. Be prepared.
I hope the mtg with the solicitor is excellent :)
I hope the mtg with the solicitor is excellent :)
