Adult children...... no contact
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I have 4 children 2 under 18 2 over my husband was arrested 6mths ago for IIoc on his phone, after a lot of talking and therapy we are working staying together it comes from a porn addiction he isnt sexually attracted to children he found pics on a free site u could literally view folders of cars n flowers etc before we met he had 2 major trauma events his wife cheated on him n his dad died with in 5mths, he was on his own for 9yrs nkt excuse but i understand the addiction part.....not allowed to sleep in house plus no unsupervised contact with our children under 18 no charges as of yet, we all no these things take time
Last week my oldest went to see her uncle shes 25 still lives at home and we have kept who knows very small she decided to tell him everything anyway it all kicks off hes screaming at me saying ive damaged my oldest mental health by letting my hubsand around my children he is the step dad etc her and my next one who's 21 have decided to go no contact with me cause im not putting them first oldest is now staying at her uncles house 21yr old lives with boyfriend
My 17 and 11yr old still wanna be around my husband and are safe they told social worker etc
Am I a bad parent should I consider adult children
Last week my oldest went to see her uncle shes 25 still lives at home and we have kept who knows very small she decided to tell him everything anyway it all kicks off hes screaming at me saying ive damaged my oldest mental health by letting my hubsand around my children he is the step dad etc her and my next one who's 21 have decided to go no contact with me cause im not putting them first oldest is now staying at her uncles house 21yr old lives with boyfriend
My 17 and 11yr old still wanna be around my husband and are safe they told social worker etc
Am I a bad parent should I consider adult children
My eldest had left home but my younger one was on the verge of leaving at the time of the knock. Eldest wanted zero contact and I respected his decision. Youngest kept contact whilst he was at home but since he has left has had no contact with his father.
It was one of the reasons I decided to leave. My eldest said he wouldn't visit whilst his father was still in the house and if he ever had children then they would never visit etc. I didn't want to live my life on the perifirory of my kids life - I wanted to be a part of their lives. As it was their father got a custodial which made things slightly easier and gave me breathing room.
Not a single regret.
It's so difficult as we are stuck in the middle and it's worse than being a UN peacekeeper. I put my kids first
It was one of the reasons I decided to leave. My eldest said he wouldn't visit whilst his father was still in the house and if he ever had children then they would never visit etc. I didn't want to live my life on the perifirory of my kids life - I wanted to be a part of their lives. As it was their father got a custodial which made things slightly easier and gave me breathing room.
Not a single regret.
It's so difficult as we are stuck in the middle and it's worse than being a UN peacekeeper. I put my kids first
