I'm just so scared.
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Got the notification that his file had gone to CPS 3 weeks ago. Yesterday, his bail was brought up from end of September to next week. While we haven't been told, we're fairly certain we know what this means- charges.
We're 9 months down the line from the knock, and I was an absolute mess at first. But I got help with my mental health, looked after myself, fought with social services until they left us alone on a safety plan. I've been doing so well. But now I can't stop myself spiralling. I was doing so well, life felt almost normal and I could get on with things 99% of the time, but I can feel myself slipping back into that dark place. I'm so scared. Scared of my mental health going to hell again. Scared of people finding out. We have such a unique surname- I've never met someone with it that we aren't related to, I'm terrified of the knock on effects if my students or colleagues find out. Scared of the judgement. Scared of dealing with him being on the SOR for maybe 10 years and how thats going to affect our lives. Scared he won't cope. Scared of having social services back in our lives. I wish I knew how to get out of my own head.
We're 9 months down the line from the knock, and I was an absolute mess at first. But I got help with my mental health, looked after myself, fought with social services until they left us alone on a safety plan. I've been doing so well. But now I can't stop myself spiralling. I was doing so well, life felt almost normal and I could get on with things 99% of the time, but I can feel myself slipping back into that dark place. I'm so scared. Scared of my mental health going to hell again. Scared of people finding out. We have such a unique surname- I've never met someone with it that we aren't related to, I'm terrified of the knock on effects if my students or colleagues find out. Scared of the judgement. Scared of dealing with him being on the SOR for maybe 10 years and how thats going to affect our lives. Scared he won't cope. Scared of having social services back in our lives. I wish I knew how to get out of my own head.
Relate to every word. We are in same position at almost exactly the same point with our son. Hard not to spiral and go to the worst case scenario, so much is out of our hands. Hope things go as smoothly as possible for you.
Hey I thought id comment as we are post sentence. Most cases go under the radar, if its online only offending theyre the most likely to go unnoticed. I was terrified of it going into the papers because I didnt want my daughters life to be blown up yet again. About 4 weeks after it went to CPS we got the letter telling him his plea hearing date which was for i think 5 weeks after that. Then about 5 weeks later he was back in court for sentencing. We are over 8 months post sentence, not much has really changed. We are slowly moving on with our lives. He notified the police once we had the goahead for over night stays with SS and thats been it so far. Ive avoided looking at abroad holidays as i know some countries dont allow convicts in and I know where we cant go for holidays in our own country. Which still makes me cry because its our daughter who misses out because he messed up beyond messed up.
Sunshine&Rainbows please could you share the places in UK you know of that you can't go (even if by DM if preferred). Sorry I don't know how I got the underling on my phone!
I was fine until after the sentencing and then spent weeks panicking. It does pass. Obviously no one can guarantee no media but the odds are fairly high they won't be there or print it. Everything crossed for you and sending much love.
Sunshine and rainbows...what places in the UK can't you go? I know centre parcs and some camping/caravan parks? Anywhere else?
Sunshine and rainbows...what places in the UK can't you go? I know centre parcs and some camping/caravan parks? Anywhere else?
How do places like Centre Parcs enforce or ensure?
They can't enforce or ensure however it's clear in the Ts & C's and the police/offender manager can contact them should they become aware.
I triple check the Ts & Cs of anywhere we are planning to go and if it's in there we choose somewhere else.
I triple check the Ts & Cs of anywhere we are planning to go and if it's in there we choose somewhere else.
