Has anyone had to deal with difficult family members? In my case it’s my husband’s immediate family who were initially supportive but have actually made things more difficult, despite him actually getting NFA.

One of them made things pretty difficult early on by spreading information to other family members that was told to her in confidence when he was having a meltdown and went to her for support. She likes to be the centre of attention and clearly just enjoyed the opportunity to whip up some drama. Another one just refuses to speak to him at all or give him the opportunity to explain it from his side, rather than the exaggerated/untrue version that's be told. They’ve accused him of trying to act like it didn’t happen, which isn’t true at all as he has literally reached out to try and talk to them about it. He is also continuing to do therapy and work on himself, as well as our relationship.

Of course I know it’s been a shock and tough on them as well, and of course it is totally down to his own actions, but I’ve really been so disappointed at how little they’re been there for him and how they’ve dealt with the situation. He’s been suicidal at times and it’s felt like I’ve had to support him all by myself while having to also deal with everything that has happened. Also not once have any of them reached out to me at any point to see how I’m doing (not well) which has hurt me a bit as it feels like I’m being punished for something I haven’t even done.

We tried to keep it as contained as possible and we’re really concerned they have told other people as well. I know I can’t control what other people do or say but it does make me angry. I wish we never told them but it felt like the right thing to do at the time.

I know I need to focus on the positives and the fact that we now have the opportunity to try to rebuild our relationship, but it is hard when I’m worrying all the time about what they think and if they’re all gossiping about us.