What is the difference ??
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So long story short l have access to my sons instagram so that l can check he is sticking to his bail conditions etc and there is no issue with him in relation to this... a girl that he has followed at some time in the past (not sure when from or why) posted an update on her page today... basically it was her birthday and she is posing in lingerie in front of a 15 year old sign.. none of her other photos indicate her age and to be fair other photos make her look older.. suffice it to say my son has deleted her from his following list.. My question is firstly why do girls seem to think posting pictures like this on insta is appropriate and secondly as l see this is a cat c image, should she not be investigated for distribution.. what hope do teenage males and young men who are maybe not as mature as others have in this current world.. another one to add to the reasons l hate social media...
Calling for a teenage girl to be investigated for distribution is an absurd legal reach and a textbook example of shifting accountability. The law is clear, it does not prosecute teenagers for self-generated photos. They are minors navigating an intense digital culture, not criminal distributors.
Blaming a young woman's post for what men choose to view is a dangerous line of thinking that mirrors incel rhetoric. It completely removes male accountability. Young men and adults are entirely responsible for their own choices, their own clicks, and what they allow on their feeds. Trying to criminalise a teenage girl to excuse male behavior is entirely unacceptable
Blaming a young woman's post for what men choose to view is a dangerous line of thinking that mirrors incel rhetoric. It completely removes male accountability. Young men and adults are entirely responsible for their own choices, their own clicks, and what they allow on their feeds. Trying to criminalise a teenage girl to excuse male behavior is entirely unacceptable
I agree Dad in limbo. This whole subject, sex and the way it is viewed/ dealt with in society/ media/ social media is filled with contradictions and inconsistencies.
Indeed, the law may choose not to prosecute but the fact remains however that sharing self generated indecent images, even by teens, is illegal.
It is true that many of these girls who are posting stuff are confused youngsters trying to navigate an increasingly confusing digital world, but the same *can also be said for many of the teen boys who end up seeing it. Yes kids can block accounts, but only once they have seen stuff, images that in this case it seems were not wanted or asked for. Young people are given mixed messages and I don't think it is 'incel' to ask questions about why young girls are posting stuff that could be categorized as Cat C. We as parents and as a society I think should be asking ourselves what are we teaching our kids- about relationships, self worth, respect, consent, that posting oneself in lingerie is actually a thing.
Indeed, the law may choose not to prosecute but the fact remains however that sharing self generated indecent images, even by teens, is illegal.
It is true that many of these girls who are posting stuff are confused youngsters trying to navigate an increasingly confusing digital world, but the same *can also be said for many of the teen boys who end up seeing it. Yes kids can block accounts, but only once they have seen stuff, images that in this case it seems were not wanted or asked for. Young people are given mixed messages and I don't think it is 'incel' to ask questions about why young girls are posting stuff that could be categorized as Cat C. We as parents and as a society I think should be asking ourselves what are we teaching our kids- about relationships, self worth, respect, consent, that posting oneself in lingerie is actually a thing.
Not investigated for just distribution but also production!
Throwawayww90,
Please do not take my post as trying to excuse the actions of males committing sexual offences towards children or for them to not take accountability..or me calling for this girl to be investigated.. my question was valid in my opinion and l do not find what she posted to be merely navigating digital culture .. with regards to what is allowed on their feeds, my point was that my son did not ask to see this type of post and l did not expect a 15 year old girl to post such an image.. it simply is not appropriate.. and finally l think the reference to incel rhetoric was bang out of line.. l deplore the incel culture that has developed by social media (another reason l hate it).
To put things into context.. Since the age of 15 my son has received images, requests for images, had humiliating references made to him and even had attempted blackmail attempts against him, all from older females.. none of this excuses what he is currently accused of but it does contribute, as he incorrectly saw this as normal.. As l parent l feel l have failed him, for not protecting him earlier from this environment. He made some bad choices 2 to 3 years ago and tried to be someone he wasn't due to social and peer pressure and he may have to deal with the consequences in the future.. social media is a cesspit that has dragged modern culture down with it..
Please do not take my post as trying to excuse the actions of males committing sexual offences towards children or for them to not take accountability..or me calling for this girl to be investigated.. my question was valid in my opinion and l do not find what she posted to be merely navigating digital culture .. with regards to what is allowed on their feeds, my point was that my son did not ask to see this type of post and l did not expect a 15 year old girl to post such an image.. it simply is not appropriate.. and finally l think the reference to incel rhetoric was bang out of line.. l deplore the incel culture that has developed by social media (another reason l hate it).
To put things into context.. Since the age of 15 my son has received images, requests for images, had humiliating references made to him and even had attempted blackmail attempts against him, all from older females.. none of this excuses what he is currently accused of but it does contribute, as he incorrectly saw this as normal.. As l parent l feel l have failed him, for not protecting him earlier from this environment. He made some bad choices 2 to 3 years ago and tried to be someone he wasn't due to social and peer pressure and he may have to deal with the consequences in the future.. social media is a cesspit that has dragged modern culture down with it..
For reference l did research before posting my initial comment https://www.avonandsomerset.police.uk/crime-prevention-advice/protect-yourself-and-others/sexting/
