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Lisajt1973

Member since
March 2020

29 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 12:40pmReport post

Hi

I had the Knock this past Wednesday and all

I can say is i am at a loss. Where do i go

From here ? I feel sick, I cannot sleep , eat or leave the

Or leave the house. If what the police have told me



I can get through that but the shame its consuming

Me.



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Ren

Member since
January 2020

78 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 2:22pmReport post

Give it time to fully sink in and take each day as it comes. You are going go through at lot emotions on this journey.

Keep your head up and I am sending hugs to you xxx

Lisajt1973

Member since
March 2020

29 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 4:49pmReport post

Thankyou

Ann P

Member since
February 2020

169 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 5:36pmReport post

Lisa1973

I kniw how you are feeling. If I could go back to myself post knock I would say breathe, nothing is going to happen quickly. Unless the vile vigilantes were involved, remember at the moment no one knows except the police and you. Go to your GP and ask for help if you can't sleep, they will be sympathetic and non judgemental. If you haven't already done it, call the helpline, be patient you might have to try a few times. Ring as often if you need to.

You have done nothing wrong, it's not your fault.



Sending you support and hugs x x x

Marie.D

Member since
February 2020

109 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 6:15pmReport post

You have done nothing wrong. The first week is horrendous, you’re in shock and your world has fallen apart. I barely ate or slept and had regular panic attacks. I couldn’t even talk with the neighbours ( they have no idea, but my brain was in panic mode) Once things sink in I think it gets easier. It’s been 3 weeks since I found out ( feels like years in some ways) I’m much calmer now and have accepted that my life has changed completely. Ring the LF helpline if you havnt already. Is there anyone else you trust who you could confide in? Nothing will happen for quite a long time now do just try to breathe and focus on practical day to day things. My 2 close friends, my son, this forum and some counselling have helped me see there is a future and life ( although changed) somehow goes on.

Sending you love. People here understand. Xx

Mum of 3

Member since
December 2019

57 posts

Posted Fri March 6, 2020 6:26pmReport post

Best piece of advice I can give is to see your GP at the earliest point possible. I delayed my visit for 3 months and only went to ask for support when I got rock bottom.

I am now almost 7 months post nock and although the police and SS have closed their cases I am still finding out more and more information (which sets me back) and I'm still having to take each day as it comes I order to find our new norm.

My GP and this forum have been amazing.

Remember to look after yourself the beat you can and that includes giving yourself the time you need.

Lisajt1973

Member since
March 2020

29 posts

Posted Sat March 7, 2020 1:56pmReport post

Thankyou so much , i am going home next week

To see my family and then see what happens.

My husband has come clean and i have spoken to

The police and they don't see him as a threat

To children so thats good i suppose. He admits to

Being addicted to porn and has crossed a line.

He admits he likes the thrill of the catch more than the sexual

Tthrill but does get a thrill. His solicitor has been great i must say and has ggiven me as much as she can ,as have the police.It looks like three imadges found easy but we will see what happens now . Thankyou for being hhere.