Supervised contact sending me insane
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I feel like this is going to resonate with other toddler mams currently living under fully supervised contact, but I am going INSANE. I love my 3 year old with all my heart, she is the centre of my universe and I wouldn't give her up for anything. BUT my god how I long to be able to just take myself for a walk or to go shut myself in my bedroom for 10 minutes. The constant questions, the "why" as a response to anything I say, the singing humpty humpty and twinkle twinkle 5000 times a day, having a shadow literally everywhere, even the toilet. My loop earplugs are working overtime.
Even when her Dad isn't here (which he is often working lates because that's the only job he could get) because she's so used to being with me all the time, I still can't have a moment, all I tried to do this morning was try to use the toilet in peace and she was banging on the door crying because I wouldn't let her in! She literally climbs me, hangs round my neck, asks where I'm going if I try to so much as go make a coffee. I am literally ruled by a dictator of a toddler.
Not looking for advice, I just needed a rant, and to let other mamas feeling like me know you aren't alone! I am thankful to have some family support so I do get a break around once a week, so my heart absolutely goes out to mams who don't have that, you are wonder woman!
Even when her Dad isn't here (which he is often working lates because that's the only job he could get) because she's so used to being with me all the time, I still can't have a moment, all I tried to do this morning was try to use the toilet in peace and she was banging on the door crying because I wouldn't let her in! She literally climbs me, hangs round my neck, asks where I'm going if I try to so much as go make a coffee. I am literally ruled by a dictator of a toddler.
Not looking for advice, I just needed a rant, and to let other mamas feeling like me know you aren't alone! I am thankful to have some family support so I do get a break around once a week, so my heart absolutely goes out to mams who don't have that, you are wonder woman!
I can't compare as it's my son and whilst I have to supervise with siblings it's not the same as with toddlers. I can remember how hard that stage is when they are so dependent on you - I had 3 under the age of 5. It was so hard without any of this so I feel for you. Our strength and love knows no bounds for our kids so you will get through it but try and find little moments for you when you can recharge. Is nursery/ play group an option a couple of times a week? Sending strength from one mum to another.
I absolutely hear you. Mine is 5, I don't have to supervise anymore but she is stuck to me. We are waiting on assessments for asd. I'm looking to drop 1 or 2 days at work so I've got some time while she's at school as that is my only break. She even co sleeps with me so I don't get a minutes peace. Sending love and support from one tired mama to another xxx
Right thetr with you! It's exhausting and frustrating and stops you being the parent you know you could be if you just had five minutes to yourself! My toddler does two days nursery but ive also got a baby.
nothing has made me as insane as having to be there all the time with supervision: its suffocating. My ex wasnt much help before but at least he could take him out. Now it's also like it's all on me AND it's painful to have to be around him all the time.
no advice, just commisseration!
nothing has made me as insane as having to be there all the time with supervision: its suffocating. My ex wasnt much help before but at least he could take him out. Now it's also like it's all on me AND it's painful to have to be around him all the time.
no advice, just commisseration!
I hear you ladies about the supervised contact. My kids are young teens and it's been set up as twice weekly contact for a couple of hours. We are now 3 months into this and waiting on forensics finishing to decide next steps. Currently in going down my anxiety rabbit hole about how the next few years look. I can't bear the thought of these supervised visits contributing for next 5 to 10 years. Me having to be all 'normal' and welcoming to him for my kids sake...it's so draining at the moment and I am seriously struggling with this limbo stage again. It's so unfair!!!
Can you ask a friend or family member to supervise sometimes? They would need to be police checked to be approved, but SS can sort that.
No family nearby and the couple of friends I've told day they aren't ready to see him yet. He also keeps trying to see the kids more and asked just there about going on a full day out with them to an air show. I asked the child that isn't keen on air shows who declined so then ex said to maybe get someone to watch them and me and other child just go...'as he doesn't know how long he has...' So then I feel bad on the child that lives the air shows. But he gives no thought to me who would have to spend 14 hours where me him are glued to each other, it's just all such a big f**k up. I hate it so much. Sorry I am just having a rant.
I'm menopausal, just back with my two children from our 1at proper holiday as a 3 which was lovely to all this uncertainty again. Filling in forms right left and centre for Universal Credit and my work due to being off 6 months now. I'm a complaint manager, so really cannot face anyone yelling at me lol x
I'm menopausal, just back with my two children from our 1at proper holiday as a 3 which was lovely to all this uncertainty again. Filling in forms right left and centre for Universal Credit and my work due to being off 6 months now. I'm a complaint manager, so really cannot face anyone yelling at me lol x
I feel you. My daughter is 2 and high energy. She wants me because ive been her main career most of her life. Now that my husbands finished his conmunity service is a bit better because he is around all weekend now and not just 3 days a month. He luckily is fully engaged in being a dad so I just follow him around like his shadow and leave him to it while I watch.
