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following on from kitty's what happened next, I just wanted ask what happens at a child protection meeting. Today the sw came and asked me questions about my husbands crime and how I felt and it's so infuriating that they only see things as black and white. Just because I'm choosing to support my husband does not mean I do not care about protecting my children. She wants to do work with the girls about good touch etc and I've already got books from the library and gone over that with them. She also couldn't believe I never knew my husband was chatting online with teens. I said I never knew and she said, oh really but in a way that was like, yeah right. She will be in touch soon with a next meeting date and child protection meeting date. Do I speak at the meeting?
Hi Lottie
I am going through child protection for the second time as my daughters were on it last year when my husband was arrested and sentenced.
Social worker will do an assessment of you and your children, I got an invite to a conference then just before it I got a copy of the report social worker did.
At my conferences I was asked questions, apart from the last conference last week I have always been a mess, not hearing what they sag properly etc.
To anyone going through this for the first time ask your social worker what happens, what are they looking for and what do they want? If you are met with - we want you to leave your husband, ask them how would they work with you if you decided to stay with him.
My experience is they don't think I am protecting my daughters, also how can I talk to my girls about staying safe on the internet and when out and about etc. They say I am giving mixed messages.
Stay positive and look after yourself and your children.
We are just about to start working on contact for my youngest, she has been wanting this for nearly 2 years.
I think each council deals with this issue differently.
Big hugs, hope this has helped, I am sure someone will be along with better help.
Snuggle
I am going through child protection for the second time as my daughters were on it last year when my husband was arrested and sentenced.
Social worker will do an assessment of you and your children, I got an invite to a conference then just before it I got a copy of the report social worker did.
At my conferences I was asked questions, apart from the last conference last week I have always been a mess, not hearing what they sag properly etc.
To anyone going through this for the first time ask your social worker what happens, what are they looking for and what do they want? If you are met with - we want you to leave your husband, ask them how would they work with you if you decided to stay with him.
My experience is they don't think I am protecting my daughters, also how can I talk to my girls about staying safe on the internet and when out and about etc. They say I am giving mixed messages.
Stay positive and look after yourself and your children.
We are just about to start working on contact for my youngest, she has been wanting this for nearly 2 years.
I think each council deals with this issue differently.
Big hugs, hope this has helped, I am sure someone will be along with better help.
Snuggle
My case didnt go to child protection it stayed as child in need so im not 100% sure of the format. But Id think it is similar to child in need in some aspects. My involved a social worker, my health visitor and the managers of the creche my daughter attends. If your children are of school age someone from the school will be there.
The sw lead our case and would do most of the talking. She would ask us questions about our relationship, about any contact that we had had. How i was finding things and what arrangements we had set up for bills and removing his belongings from the home. Shed ask if i had any concerns about my daughter her health things she had done amd then would ask my ex about the case what he was doing contact he was having with other children.
Then she would ask the health visitor and creche about my daughter and how they felt she was doing if there were any concerns they wanted to raise (such as i missed her 1 year injections but i didnt realise i had to sign the red book if i was sending her with someone else)
Then she wouls discuss the steps of the plan she had in place (which was to keep her safe) and how i was doing that. Wed tslk about the supervised contact and how she felt that was gping. Then would arrange the next meeting.
Id guess there will be differences but i hope that helps a little. From my experience you do need to talk and be honest about things but the whole thing is driven by the sw
The sw lead our case and would do most of the talking. She would ask us questions about our relationship, about any contact that we had had. How i was finding things and what arrangements we had set up for bills and removing his belongings from the home. Shed ask if i had any concerns about my daughter her health things she had done amd then would ask my ex about the case what he was doing contact he was having with other children.
Then she would ask the health visitor and creche about my daughter and how they felt she was doing if there were any concerns they wanted to raise (such as i missed her 1 year injections but i didnt realise i had to sign the red book if i was sending her with someone else)
Then she wouls discuss the steps of the plan she had in place (which was to keep her safe) and how i was doing that. Wed tslk about the supervised contact and how she felt that was gping. Then would arrange the next meeting.
Id guess there will be differences but i hope that helps a little. From my experience you do need to talk and be honest about things but the whole thing is driven by the sw
So far the school has not been involved and I'm so worried about the girls being targets for bullies and will the school then think I'm a bad mother. The sw has asked for my husbands number so I think she will speak to him next. When she left yesterday I felt so deflated I felt like giving up but I love my girls and my husband and I want our family back together. I feel like I've grown much stronger over the last two years but as soon as I'm being questioned by a sw I turn to jelly. I hate them having that effect on me because I'm a flipping good mom and I would protect my girls with my life.
Im so glad I've found this forum. It's a god send.
Im so glad I've found this forum. It's a god send.