Custody Battle with ex - HELP!!
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I really need some advice from anyone who has been through something similar. Has anyone had to fight for custody/contact with an ex who is now on the sex offenders register?
My ex was recently sentenced after pleading guilty to 2 x offences involving online sexual communication with children along with an inciting offence. He received a suspended prison sentence, 10 years on the sex offenders register and a 5-year SHPO. There is currently no direct contact between us.
His mum was the supervisor until recently. She has told social services that she doesn’t believe my ex is a risk to children and apparently believes the police effectively “enticed” him into what happened, they stopped contact and are currently doing an assessment. I have indicated once a month contact in contact centre is what I feel comfortable at a push with.
He has now messaged me talking about being “proactive” about his relationship with our son and has suggested that, when restrictions allow, we look at a 3 days with him / 3 days with me arrangement.
I feel absolutely sick at the thought of this. I don’t believe he should have unsupervised care of our son, let alone 3 days at a time.
Has anyone actually had to fight this through the Family Court? What was your experience of the court’s approach when the other parent is on the sex offenders register? I’m feeling completely overwhelmed and would really appreciate some advice.
My ex was recently sentenced after pleading guilty to 2 x offences involving online sexual communication with children along with an inciting offence. He received a suspended prison sentence, 10 years on the sex offenders register and a 5-year SHPO. There is currently no direct contact between us.
His mum was the supervisor until recently. She has told social services that she doesn’t believe my ex is a risk to children and apparently believes the police effectively “enticed” him into what happened, they stopped contact and are currently doing an assessment. I have indicated once a month contact in contact centre is what I feel comfortable at a push with.
He has now messaged me talking about being “proactive” about his relationship with our son and has suggested that, when restrictions allow, we look at a 3 days with him / 3 days with me arrangement.
I feel absolutely sick at the thought of this. I don’t believe he should have unsupervised care of our son, let alone 3 days at a time.
Has anyone actually had to fight this through the Family Court? What was your experience of the court’s approach when the other parent is on the sex offenders register? I’m feeling completely overwhelmed and would really appreciate some advice.
My ex was very (domestically) abusive - (the reason I divorced) and he continually dragged us through court until they essentially barred it. However, despite a SS investigation, family courts generally don't give a sh** about women being abused as long she has left the abuser and so less exposure to the children - even if some behaviour around children is still questionable, they really promote the father. They draw a line at abuse of the courts. However, this was before any "knock" happened, so this is all new territory. But my point is - though they care little about domestic abuse, and really value a father relationship, they are still reluctant to give the father (in my exp) a lot of custody - unless you both want it. So add in thia as well! I think he is unlikley to get even close to what he wants if you don't want it (and the children are too young to have their wishes considered).
Highly unlikely a person who has been convicted of these types of crimes would be granted shared custody. Ask a solicitor?
I definitely don't want it, my son is 4, he doesn't understand. Occasionally mentions him but is really only bothered about what's in front of him - and when SS asked him to draw his family he didn't even consider him/draw him or mention him!!
They won't really consider his (son's) wants or wishes either way when it comes to custody at that age. They are actually very dismissive of it if the child says they don't want it and can really push it. They only consider it when closer to 12 iish. So unfortunatly that doean't really help atm - but father's like to say they want these things - doesn't mean they automatically get it (though normally ofc do get some) - but that's without these convictions. He is now in a much, much weaker position.
Have they said he is going to be allowed unsuoervised at some point - curious as we are not at charging yet?
Have they said he is going to be allowed unsuoervised at some point - curious as we are not at charging yet?
