Prudence16!

Member since
August 2026

1 post

Hi 2 months ago we got the knock at the door, our house was searched and my husband of 5 years was arrested for online child porn. I have three children and my youngest is special needs. He swears that he hasnt touched her but as time has gone on he has confessed to going on chat rooms, texting children and sharing, buying and recieving videos. We have a safeguard out against my youngest and have moved back to my hometown. He constantly contacts me and tells me he will change and is recieving help but i was his third wife and he had cheated on them both before with women online and in person. We are all so devestated and everyone thought he was the loveliest man and we are finding it so hard to get our heads around. I miss the man i was married too and i cant believe this has happened. My children find it hard that i still miss him. Any advice would be greatly recieved as we are taking one thing at a time.

Thank you

Posted Tue September 1, 2026 10:23amReport post

CompletelyDazed

Member since
September 2026

1 post

I don't have any advice, I just wanted to say that you aren't alone.

I am constantly torn between loving my husband and hating him/what he has done. He destroyed our lives and I had no say in it, and had no idea it was going on.

I am still with him but cannot imagine staying long term.

Posted Sat September 5, 2026 9:53pmReport post

AnxiousGirl

Member since
December 2023

429 posts

I didn't know which way to turn for almost a year. You need time to process what has gone on.

I loved my person. But the trust had gone. Other stuff came out.

I didn't think I could cope on my own. Turns out we are stronger than we think.

Reach out for help. If you can get some counselling - I was sceptical - but it does help.

Take care x

Posted Mon September 7, 2026 7:34pmReport post


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