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Hilltop478

Member since
September 2019

100 posts

Posted Sun March 8, 2020 10:59pmReport post

We are now 5 months post knock and 6 months away from what was meant to be our wedding day.

He denies all wrong doing and the police haven't yet proven otherwise.

Over the last 5 months I have slowly but surely lost myself in a world where no one knows what is going on and I have no one to talk to about it or about him. The resentment has grown and the cracks have gotten bigger.... And today I ended our relationship for good. I can't live like this anymore and I am so so so so angry at everyone. But most of all I'm angry at a system that treats us like the bad guys when we are just wrong time wrong place people.

I didn't do anything wrong, yet my life feels like its over

Dottie

Member since
June 2019

236 posts

Posted Sun March 8, 2020 11:53pmReport post

Hilltop478 I am so sorry to hear this. There is no easy way through this nightmare, stay or go it hurts so much no matter what we decide.

Your right everything about the way this is dealt with and the way us innocent partners and family members are treated is wrong. So very wrong.

Sending a hug. Xx

nicenana

Member since
March 2019

243 posts

Posted Mon March 9, 2020 12:05amReport post

Hi hilltop

i am sorry to hear about your troubles and hope you feel better soon.

i can relate so much to what s

nicenana

Member since
March 2019

243 posts

Posted Mon March 9, 2020 12:07amReport post

Hi hilltop

im sorry to hear about your troubles and hope you feel better soon.

i can relate so much to what

nicenana

Member since
March 2019

243 posts

Posted Mon March 9, 2020 12:23amReport post

Hi hilltop

third time lucky with my reply I hope.

im sorry to hear about your troubles and hope you feel better soon.

i can so relate to your anger comment. My son commited a communication offence and is in prison as I type.

i felt no anger for a long time. I felt plenty of shock,embarrassment, fear, uncertainty and sadness but not anger.

sixteen months in i feel so flipping angry. I'm not sure if the anger is about my son or about how no one wants to tackle this problem . Maybe it's about having to up sticks and leave my life behind. Either way my anger has really kicked in. I don't voice it but it seems to be there all the time for the past two months. I can only hope it goes as time goes by.

sometimes I think the anger is about it being my son who did this and not my partner. With a partner a woman can make choices whether it's right for her to stand by the partner or end things but as a mother I do not have that choice just like lots of mothers out there. I cannot walk away from my son.
I also think partners and wives can't win.if they stay they get hurt by stigma and if they end it they get hurt because most are losing a man they truly love. Bydefaault I did not have to make that choice as it was my son. X

Maunsell

Member since
March 2020

31 posts

Posted Mon March 9, 2020 8:08amReport post

Just shows how awful the way this is dealt with at present.My friend has no family,no close friends apart from me and I have no intention of deserting him as I understand his situation and what led him into this dreadful situation.I can only hope that those who will judge him will understand;but I am not holding my breath.