Advice on independent assessment
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Can anyone that's had an independent capacity to protect assessment tell me about their experiences and outcomes?
had anyone ever had a bad outcome? We were in PLO because of funding for my husbands assessment now they have put us back in PLO purely to fund a capacity to protect assessment on me with the same psychologist.
I'm anxious of the type of outcomes I'll get
will the fact we've been together 15 years go against me? What is positive to them. I already supervise after my capacity to protect with the SS but now my husbands trial (breach for disposing of a phone he says he absolutely was given permission to) has now been moved to next August and suddenly they want to do this
please can someone advice me what looks good and what doesn't? Need as much information as a can I'm a wreck. I don't want things to go backwards we've worked so hard after 2 years we would like a progress
also they said if he's guilty he'll automatically be high risk no matter how hard he's worked with everyone , some courses etc
can high risk be managed? I've heard of cases where it can
just feel like it's all becoming a lost cause that will end in a massive heartbreak no matter what
my kids will and always have come first :(
Can anyone that's had an independent capacity to protect assessment tell me about their experiences and outcomes?
had anyone ever had a bad outcome? We were in PLO because of funding for my husbands assessment now they have put us back in PLO purely to fund a capacity to protect assessment on me with the same psychologist.
I'm anxious of the type of outcomes I'll get
will the fact we've been together 15 years go against me? What is positive to them. I already supervise after my capacity to protect with the SS but now my husbands trial (breach for disposing of a phone he says he absolutely was given permission to) has now been moved to next August and suddenly they want to do this
please can someone advice me what looks good and what doesn't? Need as much information as a can I'm a wreck. I don't want things to go backwards we've worked so hard after 2 years we would like a progress
also they said if he's guilty he'll automatically be high risk no matter how hard he's worked with everyone , some courses etc
can high risk be managed? I've heard of cases where it can
just feel like it's all becoming a lost cause that will end in a massive heartbreak no matter what
my kids will and always have come first :(
What was the outcome fo your husbands assessment?
I had a capacity to protect last year, it does look into your history and the offence..how old are your children?
In a nutshell, she will ask about your relationship history- reading between the lines they are looking for any predatory traits. How long after meeting did you start living together, get engaged, married etc.
Then they will ask about the offence- how did you find out about it, are your children aware of the offence if they are old enough.
The psychologist didnt ask me directly so I told them of all things I have done to raise my own awareness becase SS have done nothing. SMART rules with children, parents protect website, upstream (scottish equivalent), enquired with safer lives, co-parenting classes, what boundaries are in place- ie I do all personal care, ensure child is living in a postive home environment (which was backed up by school reports and attendance).
Just do anything you can to prove you are aware of risks and signs of potentional abuse xx
I had a capacity to protect last year, it does look into your history and the offence..how old are your children?
In a nutshell, she will ask about your relationship history- reading between the lines they are looking for any predatory traits. How long after meeting did you start living together, get engaged, married etc.
Then they will ask about the offence- how did you find out about it, are your children aware of the offence if they are old enough.
The psychologist didnt ask me directly so I told them of all things I have done to raise my own awareness becase SS have done nothing. SMART rules with children, parents protect website, upstream (scottish equivalent), enquired with safer lives, co-parenting classes, what boundaries are in place- ie I do all personal care, ensure child is living in a postive home environment (which was backed up by school reports and attendance).
Just do anything you can to prove you are aware of risks and signs of potentional abuse xx
Thankyou!
im just afraid the fact we've been together 15 years will auto go against me
or if it goes bad what will happen to us
I supervise already it's all because they don't know my husbands risk fully until his court trial in a year so they feel the need to do this to move forward
it's strange I'm very confident in my ability to protect but worried this breach (that was never written in the rules but been told I breached) will go against me automatically
Ive done a large amount of work not sure why the work I've done with SS hasn't been enough but I'll offer what reassurance I can and do all the work I can to prove this
not sleeping well at moment keep thinking my children will be taken away I know they said they aren't after this but if my assessment went bad I'm so worried what would happen
I mean it's prospect recommendations rather and pass or fail but even as the most protective parent I feel there's always that fear they may think otherwise
I just hate being in PLO having to keep it quiet from family this time as they all kept saying I'm just gonna lose my kids and go to court and that's it
my solicitor said it isn't necessary, I'm in the assumption it's purely for funding again
Xx
im just afraid the fact we've been together 15 years will auto go against me
or if it goes bad what will happen to us
I supervise already it's all because they don't know my husbands risk fully until his court trial in a year so they feel the need to do this to move forward
it's strange I'm very confident in my ability to protect but worried this breach (that was never written in the rules but been told I breached) will go against me automatically
Ive done a large amount of work not sure why the work I've done with SS hasn't been enough but I'll offer what reassurance I can and do all the work I can to prove this
not sleeping well at moment keep thinking my children will be taken away I know they said they aren't after this but if my assessment went bad I'm so worried what would happen
I mean it's prospect recommendations rather and pass or fail but even as the most protective parent I feel there's always that fear they may think otherwise
I just hate being in PLO having to keep it quiet from family this time as they all kept saying I'm just gonna lose my kids and go to court and that's it
my solicitor said it isn't necessary, I'm in the assumption it's purely for funding again
Xx
Kids are 7 months and 26 months so can't speak for themselves
husbands current risk is low for physical and medium for online but if he's found guilty for the breach he's fighting he will be high or very high automatically (online)
not sure what that would mean for family time but surely the fact I would've managed supervising for a year by that point would prove I'm capable rather than scrutinised by assessment after assessment having to keep talking about the same things over and over to different people it's slowly becoming traumatising
they also put the PLO emotional harm because I was heard on one occasion saying shut up go to bed to my son when I look after 2 under 3 on my own at night sorry but all parents snap my solicitor can't believe it!
if you don't mind me asking is there anything you feel looks good to them or any possible red flags i should be aware of?
also was it multiple sessions or one long session? I'm a wreck sorry for the questions
xx
husbands current risk is low for physical and medium for online but if he's found guilty for the breach he's fighting he will be high or very high automatically (online)
not sure what that would mean for family time but surely the fact I would've managed supervising for a year by that point would prove I'm capable rather than scrutinised by assessment after assessment having to keep talking about the same things over and over to different people it's slowly becoming traumatising
they also put the PLO emotional harm because I was heard on one occasion saying shut up go to bed to my son when I look after 2 under 3 on my own at night sorry but all parents snap my solicitor can't believe it!
if you don't mind me asking is there anything you feel looks good to them or any possible red flags i should be aware of?
also was it multiple sessions or one long session? I'm a wreck sorry for the questions
xx
Mine was one session- lasted nearly two hours and that was it. When did the offence occur and is the court appearance for the breach or to be actually sentenced. You could just play it by ear and say you acknowledge there is a risk is why you supervise contact and are awaiting for the court outcome. I don't want to sound too negative but SS will always quiz the monther on why they are deciding to stay with their partner who has done these types of crimes- just prepare yourself for the questions. The capacity to protect assessment in my experience didn't give black and white answers. It didn't say for example "the mother is protective". It just said courses are recommended to build on protective strengths and isn't due to any deficits in protective capacity xx
Thankyou, my husband now has 2 breaches against him he has just found out he has magistrates end of month too for something he misunderstood (I know it's not a valid excuse to them)
if you don't mind me asking what sort of answer did you give for the question of why have you stayed with them? As this is where I'm scared I'll slip on my words under nerves...
also if he's auto high risk has anyone on here had an experience with breaches or their partner being high risk? Can it be a managed? What will they do to my children in a victim in all this and at this moment I can't sleep I'm really scared I can't look forward to future with my babies but hope I'm overthinking as don't go break rules and always asked what more can I do :(
just scared, is there hope xx
if you don't mind me asking what sort of answer did you give for the question of why have you stayed with them? As this is where I'm scared I'll slip on my words under nerves...
also if he's auto high risk has anyone on here had an experience with breaches or their partner being high risk? Can it be a managed? What will they do to my children in a victim in all this and at this moment I can't sleep I'm really scared I can't look forward to future with my babies but hope I'm overthinking as don't go break rules and always asked what more can I do :(
just scared, is there hope xx