Hi there

I'm so sorry. This is so hard for the families of offenders. Have you confided in anyone close to you that you can trust? I found the most unlikeliest ally with my husband's sister and my mum. Also now my therapist who has literally saved my life. I suspect when the time comes my husband will also be pleading guilty to similar images. We are 19 months in. It is heart breaking for us as we hold their shame too. With therapy I'm learning this is not mine or my 3 children's shame.

Please be kind to yourself.

I'm in the same boat. Two young children and live in a small community. When this gets out I feel terrified for the future. I feel like myself and the children carrying this shame also. So so difficult. I understand there is a public interest in knowing these offences however in these days of social media it's terrifying and it's my children I'm deeply concerned about.

It does get it easier we had the knock in January and got email today to say charges have been set by cps we find out on the 5th.... i have choosen to stand by my person its hard he cant live in the home so he no rents a room, my older children are civil to him but dont like it my younger 2 are under 18 and on cin plans with ss

He had images involving children on his phone we have had a million conversations etc about the whys the hows etc.... hes in thepary he has 1 chance with me and he knows it

Only people we told no one knows he still has his job in a public place his bail dont effect that we was told only tell ppl u can trust or on a need to know



My advice take it day by day theres good n bad

just wnated to say My method is the step not the staircase, just a silly thing ive been saying to myself since my Partners arrest





sending you lots of love and strength ♥?