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probably months away from my ex being sentenced, however I was wondering how those of you are who are beyond that stage; how is life, how are local people with you? It's one thing having to live this life prior to sentencing, it's horrendous and my life is upside down. But when this is in the public domain I'll have to go through it all again and my children could be exposed to a lot of negativity from others. Just looking for some support from anyone I guess. Hope you're all ok.
probably months away from my ex being sentenced, however I was wondering how those of you are who are beyond that stage; how is life, how are local people with you? It's one thing having to live this life prior to sentencing, it's horrendous and my life is upside down. But when this is in the public domain I'll have to go through it all again and my children could be exposed to a lot of negativity from others. Just looking for some support from anyone I guess. Hope you're all ok.
My husband's offending hit the local press and social media twice. I was absolutely mortified. My house had graffiti painted on it and I was burglrd as a direct result.
I had to stay in the house for a further 18 months whilst he was in jail. Some neighbors ignored me. I lost friends. But whilst I thought everyone and his dog knew it turns out they didn't.
I have since moved to a neighboring town. Not in an attempt to distance myself from the offending but it's just hiw it turned out. My ex as far as I know is in another neighboring town but our paths haven't crossed.
My friends have been amazing and helped so much. I'm now happy and content and have a new partner.
I won't lie and admit it was a long road but things do start to get better I promise.
I had to stay in the house for a further 18 months whilst he was in jail. Some neighbors ignored me. I lost friends. But whilst I thought everyone and his dog knew it turns out they didn't.
I have since moved to a neighboring town. Not in an attempt to distance myself from the offending but it's just hiw it turned out. My ex as far as I know is in another neighboring town but our paths haven't crossed.
My friends have been amazing and helped so much. I'm now happy and content and have a new partner.
I won't lie and admit it was a long road but things do start to get better I promise.
Thank you for your reply, much appreciated. Every day feels really hard at the moment I won't lie and it'll only get worse I guess :(
reassuring to know that things will eventually get better. How do you get graffiti off a house? If this happens to me I'll be horrified for my kids :(
so glad you are moving on now x
reassuring to know that things will eventually get better. How do you get graffiti off a house? If this happens to me I'll be horrified for my kids :(
so glad you are moving on now x
Was easy to paint over it.
In my darkest days I didn't see a way out. Someone on here said it was like a train journey. You know the stations along your journey are coming up but you don't know how long it will take to get there. But like the light at the end of the tunnel.
Looking back sometimes it doesn't feel real - and I can only remember some of what I felt.
I feel lucky that I could cut my ties with him and move on (my kids were adults) but I can see the effect it has had on them.
One thing I've learnt is that we are far stronger than we think. You will get there and I wish you all the luck in the world.
In my darkest days I didn't see a way out. Someone on here said it was like a train journey. You know the stations along your journey are coming up but you don't know how long it will take to get there. But like the light at the end of the tunnel.
Looking back sometimes it doesn't feel real - and I can only remember some of what I felt.
I feel lucky that I could cut my ties with him and move on (my kids were adults) but I can see the effect it has had on them.
One thing I've learnt is that we are far stronger than we think. You will get there and I wish you all the luck in the world.
I hope you and your kids are ok. I separated from my partner immediately and no desire to reconcile. I just want to parent my boys and try to keep them loved and safe. It's the most horrific time isn't it. Thank you for giving me hope. It's really appreciated.
My boys are adults and the eldest has already said he doesn't want children incase he turns out like his father. That is so sad. Recently I went to stay with relatives and a 4 year old child was there. My son was happy enough to kick a ball around with her but he said if she had been asked to ge picked up or have a hug he wouldn't be able to do it. That is the lasting legacy of his father's behavior. We don't know how this will affect our children whatever their age.
Yes exactly, I've had these thoughts myself, about the fad reaching effects of all of this.
I feel so sorry that your house was grafitti'd and burgled. I don't know if it's too much for me to say that I feel that the offenders family are almost secondary victims in all of this and yet we've no control over what has happened. It's so devastating.
I feel so sorry that your house was grafitti'd and burgled. I don't know if it's too much for me to say that I feel that the offenders family are almost secondary victims in all of this and yet we've no control over what has happened. It's so devastating.