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Hi all,
Is there anyone out there who asked their man/husband etc to leave after the knock and been able to find date of court hearings etc without being told by the accused?
Im not even sure where the court would be as the local police are doing their bit but the case seems to be handled and originated by the metropolitan police or Oxford (nowhere near us in the country).
Part of me wants to know the full details but what I know already makes me ill. I so wish this ‘under investigation’ period had some kind of limit so we knew how long our life will be in turmoil
Is there anyone out there who asked their man/husband etc to leave after the knock and been able to find date of court hearings etc without being told by the accused?
Im not even sure where the court would be as the local police are doing their bit but the case seems to be handled and originated by the metropolitan police or Oxford (nowhere near us in the country).
Part of me wants to know the full details but what I know already makes me ill. I so wish this ‘under investigation’ period had some kind of limit so we knew how long our life will be in turmoil
My ex wouldn't tell me anything and it wasn't until the police asked me to give evidence against him in court if it went to trial that I found out the dates.
Its really frustrating, I was like you, I wanted to know why my marriage went down the pan and what he thought was more important!
Good luck x
Its really frustrating, I was like you, I wanted to know why my marriage went down the pan and what he thought was more important!
Good luck x
My partner told his ex wife bit not sure if she was approached by the police and told the dates too. I will warn you though that in my experience of attending the sentencing the judge spoke about the worst things found and I personally didn't know and it threw me off. I couldn't even look at him afterwards or go near him. For days it went through my head. He thought I was going to break up with him as soon as he was sentenced but I stayed.
Majestictopaz
I don't know whether or not to go to the court for his sentencing. He doesn't want me to go and maybe its because like you said the judge might speak about the images. Did you wish you hadn't gone looking back on it? The solicitor and barrister both keep saying he'll get a suspended sentence but I know the starting point is prison. I can't imagine being at home wondering what's happening but at the same time I do want to protect myself from more distress, I feel I've had enough to cope with already. I've decided to stay as we've been together a really long time. Also I wonder if a partner is there does it help the court to see that a support system is in place and make prison less likely? I'm just worried about what to do for the best as the sentencing date gets closer.
I don't know whether or not to go to the court for his sentencing. He doesn't want me to go and maybe its because like you said the judge might speak about the images. Did you wish you hadn't gone looking back on it? The solicitor and barrister both keep saying he'll get a suspended sentence but I know the starting point is prison. I can't imagine being at home wondering what's happening but at the same time I do want to protect myself from more distress, I feel I've had enough to cope with already. I've decided to stay as we've been together a really long time. Also I wonder if a partner is there does it help the court to see that a support system is in place and make prison less likely? I'm just worried about what to do for the best as the sentencing date gets closer.
Hi Anne.
I do not regret going in but could have benefited from a few heads up on what to expect. I went with my partner's mum and sister so I had people with me in the gallery. I was worried about press but none of them turned up thankfully (his case never made the news as far as I am aware).
From my experience we were allowed to wait with my partner in the waiting area so that helped keep calm. He had his bags packed just in case. He was looking for a suspended sentence but can never rule out a prison sentence. When called he was taken out the back and we sat in the gallery. We couldn't see each other due to a screen.
From memory they discuss the charges then the prosecution go through a brief history of evidence of the first offense or worrying behaviour and the period of offending. They they went on to say the worst Images and vids found but not into too much detail. The defence said that my partner was remorseful, had sought rehabilitation and had family and friends support. We provided character reference letters. I was peeved that they gave my full name tho when explaining I am his partner. There were others in the gallery I didn't want to know my name.
If you do not want to go into the court room you could wait in the waiting area if you like? I didn't pay too much attention to the time but I think it was done within 20-30 mins. My partner got suspended sentence and community service (200 hours), SPO and ten year on the register. After that we were free to leave once he gave further details for probation and we all went for lunch after.
I do not regret going in but could have benefited from a few heads up on what to expect. I went with my partner's mum and sister so I had people with me in the gallery. I was worried about press but none of them turned up thankfully (his case never made the news as far as I am aware).
From my experience we were allowed to wait with my partner in the waiting area so that helped keep calm. He had his bags packed just in case. He was looking for a suspended sentence but can never rule out a prison sentence. When called he was taken out the back and we sat in the gallery. We couldn't see each other due to a screen.
From memory they discuss the charges then the prosecution go through a brief history of evidence of the first offense or worrying behaviour and the period of offending. They they went on to say the worst Images and vids found but not into too much detail. The defence said that my partner was remorseful, had sought rehabilitation and had family and friends support. We provided character reference letters. I was peeved that they gave my full name tho when explaining I am his partner. There were others in the gallery I didn't want to know my name.
If you do not want to go into the court room you could wait in the waiting area if you like? I didn't pay too much attention to the time but I think it was done within 20-30 mins. My partner got suspended sentence and community service (200 hours), SPO and ten year on the register. After that we were free to leave once he gave further details for probation and we all went for lunch after.
Hi Dizzy Doo
I'm sorry I don't know the answer to your question but I just wondered if your partner or husband was arrested somewhere else from where you live?
my partner was arrested in a city a long way from where we live, and we have not been told where the court hearing will be, we are presuming it will be in the place he was arrested, in fact we haven't been told anything!He too is released under investigation.
Sending you best wishes
Mabel x x
I'm sorry I don't know the answer to your question but I just wondered if your partner or husband was arrested somewhere else from where you live?
my partner was arrested in a city a long way from where we live, and we have not been told where the court hearing will be, we are presuming it will be in the place he was arrested, in fact we haven't been told anything!He too is released under investigation.
Sending you best wishes
Mabel x x
Hi Mabel
I might be able to help here. The charges and the court hearings will be in the area of where the investigation is being handled. My partner moved away as soon as he was arrested to live with family in a different county. Unfortunately you cant request location changes for court proceedings I do not think.
But after a sentence probation is dealt with where you like and can be transferable if the convicted moves away.
My partner had his charges given to him by hand by the police officers dealing with his case (not sure they always do this but it was to make sure he got the paperwork).
I might be able to help here. The charges and the court hearings will be in the area of where the investigation is being handled. My partner moved away as soon as he was arrested to live with family in a different county. Unfortunately you cant request location changes for court proceedings I do not think.
But after a sentence probation is dealt with where you like and can be transferable if the convicted moves away.
My partner had his charges given to him by hand by the police officers dealing with his case (not sure they always do this but it was to make sure he got the paperwork).
Thanks all,
Hisband was not arrested but taken for volentry questioning several months ago from our house, nowhere near Oxford or Met police area.
I have heard a few bits of investigation that have made me so sick (I was abused as a child) and as I have questioned everything the police have done (I don’t advise this as they play dirty/nasty when you challenge something that they have done wrong) his offence that he is accused of is not pornography so potentially why the case is so wide spread, but is all based online as far as I am aware.
I just wish they would consider us/victims/social services mis-adimistration when doing this whole prolonged ‘under investigation ‘.
Our life is in tatters and due to me not being able to cope I’ve been branded damaging to my daughter due to my mental health (anxiety and depression but no danger to anybody - but I guess that’s most of us). Husband is pressing for divorce on my unreasonable behaviour of being upset by this senecio (told him I’d be more concerned by me if I was not upset by this scenario!)
Hisband was not arrested but taken for volentry questioning several months ago from our house, nowhere near Oxford or Met police area.
I have heard a few bits of investigation that have made me so sick (I was abused as a child) and as I have questioned everything the police have done (I don’t advise this as they play dirty/nasty when you challenge something that they have done wrong) his offence that he is accused of is not pornography so potentially why the case is so wide spread, but is all based online as far as I am aware.
I just wish they would consider us/victims/social services mis-adimistration when doing this whole prolonged ‘under investigation ‘.
Our life is in tatters and due to me not being able to cope I’ve been branded damaging to my daughter due to my mental health (anxiety and depression but no danger to anybody - but I guess that’s most of us). Husband is pressing for divorce on my unreasonable behaviour of being upset by this senecio (told him I’d be more concerned by me if I was not upset by this scenario!)