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Ellen

Member since
January 2020

38 posts

Posted Wed March 18, 2020 9:25pmReport post

I am 9 weeks post knock and I wanted to give some of the newbies hope , in the first 4 weeks post knock my world imploded , I was ashamed, embarrassed and felt I should have known, listen now and know . THIS IS NOT MY FAULT, and it is not yours either , you would never have known.

i choose not to stay with my husband as he cheated on what he thought was originally a 25 year old and then it went down hill, the confrontation was live streamed and I have to say I have had nothin but support from everyone who knows me,

I went to the doctors as I could not sleep and was given anxiety tablets THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ADMITTING YOU CANNOT COPE for a while, this then made me able to cope ,

in the last few weeks I have realised knowing what did or did not happen will not help me and I can't let my ex husbands actions define or ruin me, 2 weeks ago I literally threw my coffee over a man in Starbucks and to say sorry I bought him another coffee, 6 hours later we left , I was compelled to open up to him and he did not judge , we have since met for coffee and it's nice UK have a friend ,



I guess what I am trying to say is that don't shut yourself off to the option of another male person be it as a friend ,companion or partner, we can't make the mistakes of our past which we had no control over ruin our future xxx