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Hi sweetie,

I am quiet new to this club that no one wants to join. First take care of you!You are going togo through every emotion there is. I myself have beeb oon a rollacoaster of emotions these past 5 weeks and am now only just starting to calm down enough to put my right head on and face this fully. Its good that you have been intouch with the help line and keep doing that . keep coming on here as there is so much support.Go on the stopitnow web page. Its good that your son has been honest and now he will need help to get through this . LF and stopitnow will be able to help but he need to reconise that he need help and to accept that help. My hb has

My hb has an addiction to porn and sex so what we have decided is rhe explore this avenue to help him not reoffend and toget him back to his ild self. Thus may be something you may want to look into. There are mothers on thia forum so they can help you more with your personal situation. Remember none of this is your fault. Hugs sweetie xxYou are not alone in this take all the support you can xxxx

I feel so sorry for you and your son. He is so young, a child himself. Of course it is wrong to have illegal images, but from what I have learnt since being exposed to this scary world, is that this material is very easy to get hold of. Far too easy. In my view not enough is done to deal with the monsters uploading the images, and the porn industry is making an absolute fortune. My very capable and successful husband, who is an adult and should know better, says he was groomed by predators on the internet, porn was an addiction. I had no idea of his addiction at all.

Have a look at https:fightthenewdrug.org/. Both you and your son, it will help you make sense of it all.

Not enough education is given on this subject. I wish I’d have known and I maybe could have helped and supported my husband and got him the help he so needed before the vigilantes trapped him.

We are here to listen and help. Take care. This is a long journey. x

Sorry to hear this. I would also agree to be very careful on what you say to the police. Things which can sound fine in the context of a conversation when someone is trying to be helpful, can be written in such a way and read out in court that sounds very different. Of course there are a lot of lovely police officers out there, but there are some who are just looking for a conviction at any cost. They have had a lot of training and experience, and they are looking for information which helps them convict. Get a good solicitor that specialises in this area, and do not talk to the police without a solicitor. You'll need to look at the bail conditions and see if there is scope for the being changed if they are not considered fair. No contact with anyone under 18, when the person is only 16 sounds difficult to comply with. Also the restrictions in internet access could be difficult, depending on the details. Obviously I do not know the details, but you mentioned he had being doing this at a very young age, you could explore if he was being encouraged by others, perhaps grooming, their could be the angle of him being treated as a victim. Given his age, it would be better if they can get the case to court before he is 18, as reporting restrictions are usually in place for people under that age. But discuss this with your solicitor.