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So yesterday I moved into my new house, first time I've ever lived alone at the ripe old age of 53, always had parents, children or husband with me!!
Seems really strange this morning and I don't really know how I feel, I'm quite tearful, although that's been since I went to court and heard the charges against my husband. I'm feeling quite lost because there is so much I need to do that I would have usually left to my husband so that's hard.
I'm friends on Facebook with his brothers partner who posted a live video last night which he was in, drinking and laughing without a care in the world. Someone asked him about next March and he said he was free then but probably not April (that's when his court case is) and was joking about it. Why am I so bloody upset when he's lied and lied about everything and note is treating it like one big joke!!
Sorry, I've gone off topic but I think I'm all over the place today. Note to self, pull yourself together, also a smile on your face and carry on. I have my son and granddaughter visiting me today so that'll make me happy.
Hope you all have a wonderful weekend xx
Seems really strange this morning and I don't really know how I feel, I'm quite tearful, although that's been since I went to court and heard the charges against my husband. I'm feeling quite lost because there is so much I need to do that I would have usually left to my husband so that's hard.
I'm friends on Facebook with his brothers partner who posted a live video last night which he was in, drinking and laughing without a care in the world. Someone asked him about next March and he said he was free then but probably not April (that's when his court case is) and was joking about it. Why am I so bloody upset when he's lied and lied about everything and note is treating it like one big joke!!
Sorry, I've gone off topic but I think I'm all over the place today. Note to self, pull yourself together, also a smile on your face and carry on. I have my son and granddaughter visiting me today so that'll make me happy.
Hope you all have a wonderful weekend xx
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Hi Tracey,
I know you probably don't feel like celebrating now, but one day I hope you will be able to look back on today and feel really proud of yourself for making the brave and significant step of breaking free from the person who has caused you so much heartbreak. If your partner is really treating the whole situation as one big joke and is insensitive enough to let the world know this on Facebook, it seems to me that you have made a very positive decision to move away from him. I'm wondering, though, why his brother's girlfriend thought that it was appropriate to post a film of him enjoying himself on Facebook. If she is your Facebook friend, she must have realised that you would see it and be upset.
Anyway, like you I had a period living on my own after 'the knock' when my husband moved out. I initially found it horrible and lonely, having lived with other people for the majority of my adult life. Eventually I took the step of going onto a dating site and I met a new partner who I am with now, nearly two years later. I am exactly your age, by the way. It feels like a new start for both of us (my partner was let down badly by his wife) and we are looking forward to buying a house together in the near future. So do try to be positive. Whether or not you embark upon a new relationship, you will rebuild your life and there are lots of wonderful things around the corner for you, I'm sure. It sounds like you have good relationships with other members of your family, and that is something to cherish.
Take care. X
I know you probably don't feel like celebrating now, but one day I hope you will be able to look back on today and feel really proud of yourself for making the brave and significant step of breaking free from the person who has caused you so much heartbreak. If your partner is really treating the whole situation as one big joke and is insensitive enough to let the world know this on Facebook, it seems to me that you have made a very positive decision to move away from him. I'm wondering, though, why his brother's girlfriend thought that it was appropriate to post a film of him enjoying himself on Facebook. If she is your Facebook friend, she must have realised that you would see it and be upset.
Anyway, like you I had a period living on my own after 'the knock' when my husband moved out. I initially found it horrible and lonely, having lived with other people for the majority of my adult life. Eventually I took the step of going onto a dating site and I met a new partner who I am with now, nearly two years later. I am exactly your age, by the way. It feels like a new start for both of us (my partner was let down badly by his wife) and we are looking forward to buying a house together in the near future. So do try to be positive. Whether or not you embark upon a new relationship, you will rebuild your life and there are lots of wonderful things around the corner for you, I'm sure. It sounds like you have good relationships with other members of your family, and that is something to cherish.
Take care. X
Tracey, good luck in your new home and i hope this is a first step in a new and exciting life for you. Concentrate on all the positives this brings to your life, there are always people around willing to help with the stuff you feel your husband used to do or find a friend/relative to come and have a giggle at seeing you try!. Im sure its heartbreaking to see him having fun and especially laughing and joking. He really wont be laughing and joking when hes in court being sentenced and sometimes people behave inappropriatly like use dark humour as a way of coping. If you have chosen to move on dont let his life or behaviour get to you, im sure thats easier said than done but tey to find things that you enjoy and make you happy.
Hi Tracey
I have spent the last six months getting used to the idea of living alone but finally beginning to feel a lot more positive about it.
There are times when I feel lonely, especially at weekends if I haven’t much planned, but am trying to make sure I’ve got things in the diary. And I’m in a choir which is wonderful. Singing is so therapeutic and the social side is fun.
Have also joined a dating site but don’t think I’m at all ready yet, so it’s just a distraction. I am still in the house we shared, although it was initially mine and I’m relieved to have it back . I had to buy him out as he went on the mortgage a few years ago.
Although he has yet to go to court and there’s rarely an hour goes by when I don’t think about what’s happened, I am focused on making new memories and writing the next chapter of my new life.
Enjoy your new home Tracey. And if you need support, we are here.
Paula xx
I have spent the last six months getting used to the idea of living alone but finally beginning to feel a lot more positive about it.
There are times when I feel lonely, especially at weekends if I haven’t much planned, but am trying to make sure I’ve got things in the diary. And I’m in a choir which is wonderful. Singing is so therapeutic and the social side is fun.
Have also joined a dating site but don’t think I’m at all ready yet, so it’s just a distraction. I am still in the house we shared, although it was initially mine and I’m relieved to have it back . I had to buy him out as he went on the mortgage a few years ago.
Although he has yet to go to court and there’s rarely an hour goes by when I don’t think about what’s happened, I am focused on making new memories and writing the next chapter of my new life.
Enjoy your new home Tracey. And if you need support, we are here.
Paula xx