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Christine_123

Member since
April 2020

190 posts

Posted Sat May 2, 2020 4:21pmReport post

How do you forgive? Me and my ex have started trying to rekindle however it's not as easy as I thought some days I'm so happy and don't find myself thinking about his crime others I'm disgusted and don't want to see or speak to him, is this normal? :(

Mata

Member since
May 2019

61 posts

Posted Sat May 2, 2020 5:13pmReport post

I'm a year down the line, still with my husband and have exactly the same thoughts and days as you are having.

You hear it does get easier.... I don't know... Some days are good just like before and then something can happen and the thoughts of why come back.

Hope this doesn't make you feel worse.

Stay safe Mata x

Totalyheartbroken

Member since
April 2020

97 posts

Posted Sat May 2, 2020 5:59pmReport post

Hi i am the same we got the knock in March and i have decided to stay but sometimes its so good and then bang it hits me square in thw stomach and i just want to run away , scream WHY or just cry until there areno tears left. Then i find myself laughting or singing just pratting around and then bam i feel guilty for enjoying myself all because of him ; then we go round again. But i am finding it longer happy periods between breakdowns. Until the next step in this fucking nightmare.Also the support from this forum is fantastic and it makes me stronger to keep fighting.



Hugs to you all.

Christine_123

Member since
April 2020

190 posts

Posted Sat May 2, 2020 6:24pmReport post

I'm also struggling with judgement a lot, my ex brought me food round today as I'm not going out when not working and when I went outside after he'd gone a neibour started shouting at me saying "you must be zipped up the back" I said what do you mean and he went "having that twat round" i expect things like this to happen but I get scared and don't know what to say or do

Christine_123

Member since
April 2020

190 posts

Posted Sun May 3, 2020 9:13amReport post

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KDLB

Member since
April 2020

27 posts

Posted Mon May 4, 2020 5:58pmReport post

I feel the same, some days I forget it has happened but other days I feel sick in my stomach.

It sounds like this is a common feeling so that helps me, but just not sure how to act and am thinking all the time about what is said and how it looks.

No one knows at this point, we haven't told any family and only one friend knows, as we were at beginning of lock down when got the knock. Kind of don't want lock down to end as living in a bubble right now, i know it is going to pop once we come out of lock down