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Ex husband is out of prison tomorrow. SS (CIN) case closed 2 months ago and I was deemed a protective parent capable of arranging and supervising contact without SS involvement (exact words)
Probation however want another section 47 assessment and have said no contact at all including phone until that is done.
Spoke to my social worker - not received referral and doesnt see what another S47 will achieve.. suggested I call probation and ask on what grounds and what the plan is. He also sent me a copy of what he had already sent to probation in March.
Spoke to probation officer.. she called me entitled for calling and asking and basically ripped me to shreds. She then switched to being very patronising. I asked her if she is putting in a referral and she said SS should be picking it up as they should with anyone let out of prison. I asked, but they haven't so what happens now? It was all a bit of a mess and someone has dropped a ball and it's the children who suffer from the lack of consistent contact.
Utterly frustrated. Fed up. Annoyed by the prospect of another S47 less than 3 months after the CIN plan closed.
I had specifically asked SS if the case would be reopened when ex is out and was told it wouldn't be required unless circumstances have changed. The probation officer told me this is incorrect. But SW maintains this is his position. He has apparently emailed her.
I was spoken to like utter sh%t by the probation officer.
What makes it worse is I was upset and then hard an argument with my boss who thinks the world of this officer (I work for police).
Sick of all this.
Probation however want another section 47 assessment and have said no contact at all including phone until that is done.
Spoke to my social worker - not received referral and doesnt see what another S47 will achieve.. suggested I call probation and ask on what grounds and what the plan is. He also sent me a copy of what he had already sent to probation in March.
Spoke to probation officer.. she called me entitled for calling and asking and basically ripped me to shreds. She then switched to being very patronising. I asked her if she is putting in a referral and she said SS should be picking it up as they should with anyone let out of prison. I asked, but they haven't so what happens now? It was all a bit of a mess and someone has dropped a ball and it's the children who suffer from the lack of consistent contact.
Utterly frustrated. Fed up. Annoyed by the prospect of another S47 less than 3 months after the CIN plan closed.
I had specifically asked SS if the case would be reopened when ex is out and was told it wouldn't be required unless circumstances have changed. The probation officer told me this is incorrect. But SW maintains this is his position. He has apparently emailed her.
I was spoken to like utter sh%t by the probation officer.
What makes it worse is I was upset and then hard an argument with my boss who thinks the world of this officer (I work for police).
Sick of all this.
Thank you so much for replying.
It's really hard as there is so little empathy for my position.
I had a long conversation with my boss today, we still don't see eye to eye with it - she is fully on the side of probation and seems to feel that social services haven't been thorough enough. I asked her what she would do in my position and she said cut all contact and don't allow the children to ever have any contact with him. I really don't agree that this is in the children's best interests.
I have a feeling that the way this is going though it might be something I have to do.
I just don't understand why police/probation are so far adrift from social services.
In terms of work yes she is aware of the pressure. She is aware of the stress this has caused me. Some days she is very supportive. Other days she is less so. I had two weeks off sick when it all happened and was threatened with capability procedures.
U really just don't know what they want from me. Because SS are or at least were happy.
It's really hard as there is so little empathy for my position.
I had a long conversation with my boss today, we still don't see eye to eye with it - she is fully on the side of probation and seems to feel that social services haven't been thorough enough. I asked her what she would do in my position and she said cut all contact and don't allow the children to ever have any contact with him. I really don't agree that this is in the children's best interests.
I have a feeling that the way this is going though it might be something I have to do.
I just don't understand why police/probation are so far adrift from social services.
In terms of work yes she is aware of the pressure. She is aware of the stress this has caused me. Some days she is very supportive. Other days she is less so. I had two weeks off sick when it all happened and was threatened with capability procedures.
U really just don't know what they want from me. Because SS are or at least were happy.