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Paula

Member since
September 2018

80 posts

Posted Wed December 12, 2018 9:01amReport post

Walking round the supermarket with all the tinny Christmas music as a constant reminder that this year is going to be so different. Bombarded by festive TV ads of happy families, Chris Rea Driving Home From Christmas in my car. There is no escape from the dread of getting through this difficult and emotional time. But I’m lucky enough to have found the money to go to the States where I’m spending Christmas for the first time ever with my five year old grand daughter. And the first time with my son in the past 15 years. So for that time will park all the trauma and turmoil for a while and be grateful for the wonderful things I have in my life. My friends, my family, my choirs, and the new future I’m going to create.

What are your thoughts/plans about Christmas? And how have you coped if it’s not your first in this club of ours....

love Paula

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Nonna

Member since
December 2018

85 posts

Posted Wed December 12, 2018 9:46amReport post

Hi Paula, you have just said what I was thinking the other day, that awful song driving home for Christmas makes me so sad since the knock, christmas all seems so false nowadays. I'm trying to do different things this year more meaningful, I have given £10 EACH to every homeless charity, I don't know why I felt compelled to do this but I do believe it's something in my head to do with the club I'm now in, I hope we all get through Christmas but I'm finding it hard to say merry Christmas and a happy New year to anyone, but let's give a big hug to all members of our secret special club xx

Krissie

Member since
October 2018

57 posts

Posted Wed December 12, 2018 4:14pmReport post

It might just be me but im not bothered by the fact that he wont be here for christmas. I know that sounds awful but he aways worked christmas so it doesnt make any difference.

Im looking forward to the fact my daughter has some understanding of it this year and cant wait to see her face when she sees the presents that santa has left her. Then its round to my parents for lunch before i go to work for the night.

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed December 12, 2018 10:23pmReport post

I'm really struggling especially as I have a birthday in the next 2 days too. I'm so cynical nowadays and can't get into the festive spirit.

I'm staying at my son's on Christmas Eve and the actual day, I'll put a smile on my face but wish I could go to sleep on the 23rd and wake up on the 2nd Jan!!

I guess it's time to start new traditions but it'll be tough this year.

I'll be thinking of you all though and knowing we're not alone does help xx

Paula

Member since
September 2018

80 posts

Posted Wed December 12, 2018 11:43pmReport post

Thank you Poster, Nonna, and Krissie. And oh Tracey I know what you mean about fast forwarding to Jan until all the jollity ends. If I hear I Wish It Could Be Christmas Every Day once more I will scream! And although I’m longing to start a fresh new year, it brings with it charges and a court case.

It’s six months since The Knock. I am coping, but without knowing you are there, it would be so much harder.

thank you

love Paula xx

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KLK

Member since
October 2018

99 posts

Posted Thu December 13, 2018 9:51amReport post

Christmas will as normal as possible this year apart from my Husband won't be sleeping here on Christmas Eve. Next Christmas may be a different story pending some sort of closure to this, I am hoping the investigation won't take that long! Next year, with or without him I will be taking the kids to Disney again. We did it last year and it was so magical, they deserve it after the rubbish we have been through!

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Fri December 14, 2018 7:53amReport post

You owe him nothing Poster, in fact you do more than he deserves. I'm also a people pleaser and find it hard to say no but we need to learn to be more selfish!

You do what makes you happy and stuff him - btw how has he got another girlfriend, does she not care about his preferences??

Tracey xx

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KLK

Member since
October 2018

99 posts

Posted Fri December 14, 2018 9:59amReport post

Poster - does he not truly understand what he has done?!!! It seems like he is just moving on and being as normal as before and has no regard for anyone else's feelings? God these men piss me off!! Yes, the kids may like it but that doesn't mean it HAS to happen. My kids would love chocolate for breakfast daily, but it isn't going to happen!!!!

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