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So this is also the situation my hubby is in. He was on kik and was sent a link which he opened. Fir some reason he saved the content to drop box then deleted. He didn't go looking for it but also didn't report it. It happened 2 and a half years ago. The knock was 4 weeks ago. All bar one device have been cleared for return. The trauma of it all has meant he was initially suicidal to the point of making attempts on his life and through that he has recalled some childhood abuse that he had locked away for years. He is bailed away from home, has lost his job as worked in a school and we are at the mercy of the investigation until we know more. They were cat A and B. He doesn't recall many of them. His bail has now been extended until mid July. So can't try and get his life back on track as is on bail out of area as that's where his family is.



So I'm the one in our relationship who is the optimistic one because....

Yes he should have reported it but that is a mistake that will have to be paid for.

He didn't go looking for it.

It happened 2 and half years ago and there's nothing since, so the pictures didn't trigger any inner urges to find more.



The worst bit is given the choice he'd be home for us to work through this together but dud to the kids being here this is why he was arrested and bailed, it makes it hard discussing finances etc when we don't know how long he will be away from home. All this because he didn't report it.



We also discussed whether it could be auto downloaded through kik as that's what WhatsApp does if you dont change the settings.

also if you haven't, ring the helpline. What he has been found to have is very very minimal even though includes cat A and if it wasn't intentional then that should prove mitigating factors when they look at sentencing.

My son was arrrested and phone laptop taken for other offences. Two weeks later he was called in by Police as something was found on his phone they didnt saywhat. My son was terrified as he hadnt a clue what they could have found. Luckly his solicitor was with him and told my son to say no coment till they knew what they had found. There were 5 pictures 2 cat A and 3 cat B. my son says he has no knowledge of them had never seen them and didnt download them. He says he has never looked at pictures or downloaded any. His solicitor explained how this can happen with out my sons knowledge. The solicitor told my son what to put in his statement. The police accepted his and he was not charged with this offence. Hope this helps. Just shows if yiou can afford a good solicitor who deals in these offences they are worth the money.

I just hope he can work his magic and lesson the sentence I know is inevitable. I love my son and cant understand how he got himself into his. He has thrown 20 years of hard work and a job he truely loved away in a matter of weeks.This breaks my heart I am a window and just wish my husband was here as he would know what to do.