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Good evening everyone, hope you are all well :-)
I faced my fears today and went to the plea hearing of my ex partner. It was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to experience. I still feel numb now but just wanted to get my words out without keep burdening my partner, family and friends by keep talking about it.
It was a hearing via prison video link which I don’t know if is easier or harder to deal with, to walk in the room and see his face plastered on a large screen. He looked like a scared little boy. It was awful. I don’t feel sorry for him but he just exuded guilt and embarrassment that he had been caught and is no longer in control. He pleaded guilty to all 8 charges, including creating,downloading and sharing cat a-c images, over 1000 of them, plus being in possession of a paedophile manual.
Listening to those charges being read out, seeing his face and listening to the guilty word come out of his mouth was harrowing. I still feel sick to my stomach and having flashbacks of seeing his face. He is due to be sentenced next month, I have been told this hearing he should be there in person and not via video link, I don’t know if I’m prepared for this although today was my first time in a criminal court and nothing could prepare me for it. I think this next hearing I sort of know what to expect so it won’t be as daunting, altho his barrister said he will get at least 2-3 years but this will depend on the judge on the day plus the guilty plea and he will have been on remand nearly 2 months. I am dreading it.
I need to put my brave face on, be the best mum I can be to my 2 gorgeous children and make life so much more positive for us all!
Thank you for reading! just needed to get it out of my system!
xx
I faced my fears today and went to the plea hearing of my ex partner. It was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to experience. I still feel numb now but just wanted to get my words out without keep burdening my partner, family and friends by keep talking about it.
It was a hearing via prison video link which I don’t know if is easier or harder to deal with, to walk in the room and see his face plastered on a large screen. He looked like a scared little boy. It was awful. I don’t feel sorry for him but he just exuded guilt and embarrassment that he had been caught and is no longer in control. He pleaded guilty to all 8 charges, including creating,downloading and sharing cat a-c images, over 1000 of them, plus being in possession of a paedophile manual.
Listening to those charges being read out, seeing his face and listening to the guilty word come out of his mouth was harrowing. I still feel sick to my stomach and having flashbacks of seeing his face. He is due to be sentenced next month, I have been told this hearing he should be there in person and not via video link, I don’t know if I’m prepared for this although today was my first time in a criminal court and nothing could prepare me for it. I think this next hearing I sort of know what to expect so it won’t be as daunting, altho his barrister said he will get at least 2-3 years but this will depend on the judge on the day plus the guilty plea and he will have been on remand nearly 2 months. I am dreading it.
I need to put my brave face on, be the best mum I can be to my 2 gorgeous children and make life so much more positive for us all!
Thank you for reading! just needed to get it out of my system!
xx
You are an extremly strong women.
When my ex went to court I couldnt face it and to do so I think you are extremly strong. And just know that if you need to talk about it we are all here as a source of support
When my ex went to court I couldnt face it and to do so I think you are extremly strong. And just know that if you need to talk about it we are all here as a source of support
Hi mumof2, I went to my husband plea last month and he was in the court, I found it difficult to see him in the dock sitting next to a guard but I didn't feel sorry as such for him.
My husband pleaded not guilty to 5 counts including downloading cat A videos, images, cat B plus animals, all horrible, unfortunately this means I've got to give evidence at the trial in April, a long while to wait not knowing what to expect!
I think is such an individual thing about whether or not you attend court, although I found it hard it did also help me too as I finally heard the truth about what he'd done.
Take some time after Christmas to make your decision, like I said there's no right or wrong one.
Hope you and your family have a lovely Christmas
Tracey xx
My husband pleaded not guilty to 5 counts including downloading cat A videos, images, cat B plus animals, all horrible, unfortunately this means I've got to give evidence at the trial in April, a long while to wait not knowing what to expect!
I think is such an individual thing about whether or not you attend court, although I found it hard it did also help me too as I finally heard the truth about what he'd done.
Take some time after Christmas to make your decision, like I said there's no right or wrong one.
Hope you and your family have a lovely Christmas
Tracey xx
Mumof2,
Sending you a massive virtual hug, that can't have been at all easy. Try your best to make Christmas a good one for you all. x
Sending you a massive virtual hug, that can't have been at all easy. Try your best to make Christmas a good one for you all. x
Thank you everyone, your words bring so much comfort to me.
I’ve still felt very wobbly today but keep putting it to the back of my mind now and spending time with my loved ones over these next few weeks will help me too.
I hope you all have a lovely christmas, as much as you can anyway! Best wishes to you all
xx
I’ve still felt very wobbly today but keep putting it to the back of my mind now and spending time with my loved ones over these next few weeks will help me too.
I hope you all have a lovely christmas, as much as you can anyway! Best wishes to you all
xx