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I just wondered how other people feel. I'm generally a real people pleaser to my detriment but since the knock last April I'm finding more and more that I'm carrying less and less about things and people.
I'm really cynical nowadays, I don't believe in happily ever after, I think people are untrustworthy and dishonest!
I hate feeling like this as it's so not me but can't help myself, will it ever change or am I always going to be changed???
Xx
I just wondered how other people feel. I'm generally a real people pleaser to my detriment but since the knock last April I'm finding more and more that I'm carrying less and less about things and people.
I'm really cynical nowadays, I don't believe in happily ever after, I think people are untrustworthy and dishonest!
I hate feeling like this as it's so not me but can't help myself, will it ever change or am I always going to be changed???
Xx
Tracey, I was the opposite. I trusted rarely, in fact my soon to be ex-husband was the only person I truly trusted (that incudes my own family). But I always have been a nice person and always liked to helped people. But, after this I seem to trust people more. The people who are/have helped me are true friends.
I can only speak for myself but I think it will change me as a person for the better. I will learn to be more challenging and call people out for their lies. And not to believe anything until I find it out for myself.
Without knowing your full story maybe you should try dating? Or Try to do something you always wanted to do? I have booked a holiday to Germany because I always wanted to go. Don’t stop your future because of one person, give people the chance to change your life for the better.
I can only speak for myself but I think it will change me as a person for the better. I will learn to be more challenging and call people out for their lies. And not to believe anything until I find it out for myself.
Without knowing your full story maybe you should try dating? Or Try to do something you always wanted to do? I have booked a holiday to Germany because I always wanted to go. Don’t stop your future because of one person, give people the chance to change your life for the better.
Isn't it funny losthusband how we seem to have both changed but in opposite ways.
I would hate to think I will be like this forever but as far as dating is concerned, I just don't trust anyone not to lie to me.
I was with my husband (we are divorcing) for 15 years and I believed everything he said, I would never have dreamt that he would look at this type of crap and with no remorse but he has and he doesn't think he's done anything wrong!! Since the knock 8 months ago he had lied and lied again to me, the police and worse of all himself!!
Thank you for responding, it really helps xx
I would hate to think I will be like this forever but as far as dating is concerned, I just don't trust anyone not to lie to me.
I was with my husband (we are divorcing) for 15 years and I believed everything he said, I would never have dreamt that he would look at this type of crap and with no remorse but he has and he doesn't think he's done anything wrong!! Since the knock 8 months ago he had lied and lied again to me, the police and worse of all himself!!
Thank you for responding, it really helps xx
Just a quick note about dating to say it worked for me. I signed up to an online site just under a year after ‘the knock’ and a few months after my divorce had gone through. The very first person I met on the site turned out to be perfect for me. I don’t think I’m naive when I say I trust him completely. He’s had some difficult things from his own past to deal with, but we are together and there for each other. I do feel it’s important to not lose your faith in the essential goodness of the vast majority of people. There are sensible precautions you can take before meeting anyone - I discovered a lot about my partner through a bit of online research which was very reassuring. You may not feel ready to date yet, but don’t dismiss the idea. My whole new life is built on the fact that I clicked a button on an internet dating site less than two years ago.