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this is all very new and I am still in complete shock. My husband has been arrested for possession of images, it could lead to distribution as he has shared them in forums. Looking at your messages has give us hope of an after but our main concern is protecting our children and since looking into this to say I am concerned is an understatement. If this is reported and their friends find out It will destroy them especially at school.
Will his name only be released if he goes to court and found guilty?
If we change his name will only his new name get reported - if it does (we are in a small village in south England)
Also what else could be printed with his name And and will it be his bail address or our address.
sorry so many questions but the more informed and prepared we are the better.
Thank you.
this is all very new and I am still in complete shock. My husband has been arrested for possession of images, it could lead to distribution as he has shared them in forums. Looking at your messages has give us hope of an after but our main concern is protecting our children and since looking into this to say I am concerned is an understatement. If this is reported and their friends find out It will destroy them especially at school.
Will his name only be released if he goes to court and found guilty?
If we change his name will only his new name get reported - if it does (we are in a small village in south England)
Also what else could be printed with his name And and will it be his bail address or our address.
sorry so many questions but the more informed and prepared we are the better.
Thank you.
Not all cases get reported. There doesn't seem to be a 'formula' used by journalists on what cases to target. I would say it depends on the number of iioc and contact cases seem to be more of interest to the media.
Changing their name might not work, im not sure how they can find the info but I have seen media report previously used names before. Also they might give a rough address tho I assume from where they are registered. Tho in my partners case when he went for sentencing they had his address down wrong.
I would try to take each day as it comes, seek help where you can such as GP and Lucy faithful. I know it is hard to not think about the what ifs but unfortunately there isn't a crystal ball to say whether it will be reported. Some here have moved from the area or have a plan to do so if the offences are reported in the media. But from looking at the forum there are people who have no real issue with locals when the media report. For example the worst is they get slightly ignored or stay civil. But of it is reported best to remove social media, and for your kids if they have accounts to avoid seeing comments that are hurtful
Changing their name might not work, im not sure how they can find the info but I have seen media report previously used names before. Also they might give a rough address tho I assume from where they are registered. Tho in my partners case when he went for sentencing they had his address down wrong.
I would try to take each day as it comes, seek help where you can such as GP and Lucy faithful. I know it is hard to not think about the what ifs but unfortunately there isn't a crystal ball to say whether it will be reported. Some here have moved from the area or have a plan to do so if the offences are reported in the media. But from looking at the forum there are people who have no real issue with locals when the media report. For example the worst is they get slightly ignored or stay civil. But of it is reported best to remove social media, and for your kids if they have accounts to avoid seeing comments that are hurtful
Hi Claire
I'm so sorry you have joined us on here...the shock is so dreadful, .just take one day at a time, that has helped me so much. Just concentrate on today.
So my partner changed his surname. Our solicitor advised him the cps can read out your former name, but you can ask them not to and it is then up to the individual whether they do. The address they read out in court is the address you give when you are charged, not when you are arrested. I hope I've got this right, my partner has been waiting 2 years released under investigation, and so it's 2 years since I met with his solicitor to ask these questions!
Take down any photos on social media as well as the press can use them. My partner closed his LinkedIn account as well.
wishing you the best
Mabel xx
I'm so sorry you have joined us on here...the shock is so dreadful, .just take one day at a time, that has helped me so much. Just concentrate on today.
So my partner changed his surname. Our solicitor advised him the cps can read out your former name, but you can ask them not to and it is then up to the individual whether they do. The address they read out in court is the address you give when you are charged, not when you are arrested. I hope I've got this right, my partner has been waiting 2 years released under investigation, and so it's 2 years since I met with his solicitor to ask these questions!
Take down any photos on social media as well as the press can use them. My partner closed his LinkedIn account as well.
wishing you the best
Mabel xx
Thank you both for your helpful replies. We are trying to take it one day at a time and when we do that it is almost manageable. It gets harder when we think of any future especially holidays that are already booked etc but all of that is a few months down the line.
This forum is amazing and has really helped me understand.
thank you
This forum is amazing and has really helped me understand.
thank you
Hi Claire
I am 7 weeks into this mess n still completely n utterly obsessed by the media!!!!!
I feel like our lives and our future are in their hands. We also have kids in school. We live in a city but a suburb. After much deliberation I am 99% sure I want to be with him. I have been over 20 years cannot imagine my life without him. He is still the best husband and dad who let this horrid addiction control him.
My sister says I should just accept this it probably will come out but I feel like the hope that we can contain this and be a family again is the only hope I have. I do not want to have to rip the kids out of school and turn their lives upside on ifs buts and maybes!
Hope some of the others can offer us some reassurance.
Sending you love and strength xxxx
I am 7 weeks into this mess n still completely n utterly obsessed by the media!!!!!
I feel like our lives and our future are in their hands. We also have kids in school. We live in a city but a suburb. After much deliberation I am 99% sure I want to be with him. I have been over 20 years cannot imagine my life without him. He is still the best husband and dad who let this horrid addiction control him.
My sister says I should just accept this it probably will come out but I feel like the hope that we can contain this and be a family again is the only hope I have. I do not want to have to rip the kids out of school and turn their lives upside on ifs buts and maybes!
Hope some of the others can offer us some reassurance.
Sending you love and strength xxxx
Hi Claire7878
my sons in court a week today, his solicitor has said that due to covid it's limited of who can go in the court room, i may not be able to go in so hopefully there is no reporter's at the moment.
my sons in court a week today, his solicitor has said that due to covid it's limited of who can go in the court room, i may not be able to go in so hopefully there is no reporter's at the moment.
Jake - there were no reporters at my husbands hearing but the courts do send cases to the press to publish. When I knew there were no reporters I totally let my guard down and then bang! a week later it was all over social media via a local newspaper.
Hi KLK
Sorry to hear this happened to you, it must have been horrible.
I have a friend who works in a magistrate court and she told me the same, the court cases are sent thro daily, I guess it is up to the press what they publish.
It is very very scary!!!
wishing everyone the best
Mabel x
Sorry to hear this happened to you, it must have been horrible.
I have a friend who works in a magistrate court and she told me the same, the court cases are sent thro daily, I guess it is up to the press what they publish.
It is very very scary!!!
wishing everyone the best
Mabel x
I have a friend who works in a press office and she told me it's pot luck what they publish. It depends on what else is in the news that day and how much information the court releases about the case.