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Hi all,
I am not sure what I am looking for here; maybe solace?
My partner (33) was arrested 3 years ago for IIOC. I have supported him thus far, but recently it has hit the media. The papers twisted it to seem so much than it is (not that it wasn't bad enough!) And my friends, family and work have all found out. I work with young children which adds another layer to the whole thing.
I am looking for stories of people who have got through this and come out the other side. I love my partner and want to support him, but I honestly don't know how we can live a normal, happy life. I keep going through every future scenario in my head. Like if we wanted to have children, what would be the implications for them? Would they be bullied If their school friends found out? Would they be allowed to have friends over? I know these are all hypothetical situations but I can't stop thinking about them and it is driving me crazy.
A colleague said to me I would have to move away if I stayed with him which just isn't an option for me as I am extremely close to my family.
Any advice would be appreciated.
I am not sure what I am looking for here; maybe solace?
My partner (33) was arrested 3 years ago for IIOC. I have supported him thus far, but recently it has hit the media. The papers twisted it to seem so much than it is (not that it wasn't bad enough!) And my friends, family and work have all found out. I work with young children which adds another layer to the whole thing.
I am looking for stories of people who have got through this and come out the other side. I love my partner and want to support him, but I honestly don't know how we can live a normal, happy life. I keep going through every future scenario in my head. Like if we wanted to have children, what would be the implications for them? Would they be bullied If their school friends found out? Would they be allowed to have friends over? I know these are all hypothetical situations but I can't stop thinking about them and it is driving me crazy.
A colleague said to me I would have to move away if I stayed with him which just isn't an option for me as I am extremely close to my family.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Hi JenGUS,
I understand this must be a very difficult situation for you but I am glad you have found this forum as a place for support and I hope that you find it helpful. Hopefully more forum users who have been in a similar situation will reply to your post. In the meantime, I would really encourage you to phone our anonymous and confidential Stop it Now! Helpline on 0808 1000 900 to discuss your situation further with one of our helpline operators. This will allow you to receive the most relevant advice and it is the easiest way to receive further support and advice around different topics, including your questions regarding your children’s wellbeing.
I hope that you will be able to call the helpline soon, if possible.
Kind regards,
Lucy
I understand this must be a very difficult situation for you but I am glad you have found this forum as a place for support and I hope that you find it helpful. Hopefully more forum users who have been in a similar situation will reply to your post. In the meantime, I would really encourage you to phone our anonymous and confidential Stop it Now! Helpline on 0808 1000 900 to discuss your situation further with one of our helpline operators. This will allow you to receive the most relevant advice and it is the easiest way to receive further support and advice around different topics, including your questions regarding your children’s wellbeing.
I hope that you will be able to call the helpline soon, if possible.
Kind regards,
Lucy