Child protection conference. Advice needed for future.
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Yesterday we had a child protection conference and as anticipated my son was put on a child protection plan.
The conference was just awful and all agencies said that I lacked insight and could not keep my son safe from my husband. Any way I tried to argue this they twisted to add to their conclusion that I lack insight (they also said my husband lacks insight into his potential risk to our son too)
My husband was convicted about 6 weeks ago for attempted communication with a 12 year old (it was a police officer). He was given a 3 year community order, 5 years SOR and SHPO restrictions.
After his arrest in January SS decided that I could supervise my husbands visits with our son (his bail restrictions said he couldn't live at home and despite no restrictions on where he lives from court we've agreed to keep this arrangement with SS). The social worker that was in the meeting yesterday (from child protection and court team and has never spoken to us) was surprised this was happening so I know that is going to be stopped very soon.
I feel totally lost, yesterday was a total deformation of character and I've now been left feeling like the worst and most incompetent mum in the world. We've got the core group meeting in a few weeks.
I've read that people on here have had similar experiences with SS so it sounds like it's not just me. Has anyone got any advice on anything? I'm not even sure what I'm asking for here!!
I've looked into advocates but so far have not found one that we're entitled to as neither of us have any additional needs.
My husband and I are very knowledgeable on risk and safeguarding and that seems to be being used against us.
Regarding our relationship I've said all along that I'm not going to make such a huge and life changing decision whilst all do this is going on. Again, that wasn't particularly well received either.
sorry for the long post!! Any advice would be gratefully received x
The conference was just awful and all agencies said that I lacked insight and could not keep my son safe from my husband. Any way I tried to argue this they twisted to add to their conclusion that I lack insight (they also said my husband lacks insight into his potential risk to our son too)
My husband was convicted about 6 weeks ago for attempted communication with a 12 year old (it was a police officer). He was given a 3 year community order, 5 years SOR and SHPO restrictions.
After his arrest in January SS decided that I could supervise my husbands visits with our son (his bail restrictions said he couldn't live at home and despite no restrictions on where he lives from court we've agreed to keep this arrangement with SS). The social worker that was in the meeting yesterday (from child protection and court team and has never spoken to us) was surprised this was happening so I know that is going to be stopped very soon.
I feel totally lost, yesterday was a total deformation of character and I've now been left feeling like the worst and most incompetent mum in the world. We've got the core group meeting in a few weeks.
I've read that people on here have had similar experiences with SS so it sounds like it's not just me. Has anyone got any advice on anything? I'm not even sure what I'm asking for here!!
I've looked into advocates but so far have not found one that we're entitled to as neither of us have any additional needs.
My husband and I are very knowledgeable on risk and safeguarding and that seems to be being used against us.
Regarding our relationship I've said all along that I'm not going to make such a huge and life changing decision whilst all do this is going on. Again, that wasn't particularly well received either.
sorry for the long post!! Any advice would be gratefully received x