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It's only been 8 weeks since the knock and I already have people asking me when I'm going to take my wedding rings off. I've had people tell me that I could sell them, wear them on another finger or find a nice box to store them in. It's like they don't realise it's only been 8 weeks. Everything is hard enough without people going on about taking something off that is very precious to me. Also I havent even decided what I want to do with regards to staying with my husband. They've just assumed we've split up and thats it because of what he has done. They don't realise the complexity of it all. They just don't understand at all. Like theres not enough to deal with. I just wish sometimes that people thought about things before they say them as it's really not helpful.
Hi its so hard i know , we got the knock in March and its life changing. You are the only one who can make up your mind and there is no rush. Take your time but first look after you and once you start looking after you , things will bevome clearer and communicate with your husband you need to have all the information you want .I found my husbands willingness to communicate and his reaction to this has helped me a great deal.
Hugs xx
Hugs xx
It's only 10 weeks since the knock for us and as of now no one outside our home knows.(we're hoping it stays that way) But even if people knew no one has a right to tell us what to do, or say, or who to love. I know my husband and I know how seriously we both take the vows we made almost 30 years ago. Be brave and strong, much love.
Hi, I'm at a similar stage to you. It's bloody infuritiating how people just make an assumption you're going to split. I had to put my family in their place n tell them I need to explore my own feelings and make my own decisions...
I spoke to my counsellor and she said its because they can see you so broken they just want to step in and fix things!
Be true to yourself and give yourself time. I took my rings off for a few weeks at first but back on now. Xx
I spoke to my counsellor and she said its because they can see you so broken they just want to step in and fix things!
Be true to yourself and give yourself time. I took my rings off for a few weeks at first but back on now. Xx
Thank you everyone. It really is infuriating that people feel the need to comment on something that doesn't effect them in any way. Who cares if I wear them or not it doesn't harm them. I'm going to keep them on and just try and let people's comments go over my head. Like you all said it's my choice.
It's like I'm re-experiencing the same feelings that you've experienced. I have the same situation, and the biggest pressure on us at that time was exerted by people who, in their opinion, wanted to help. I don't understand how you can brazenly get into other people's relationships and give advice without understanding what I really felt. I am grateful to God that my husband and I could go through these difficulties together and keep our love. It's been three years, and we wanted to give each other an oath of loyalty and love again, so we decided to recreate the wedding. Only now will it be a private family ceremony in a magical closed nature reserve. And I really want to do a photoshoot in an enchanted mountain forest, something in this style.