Husband Unable to see Children
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Hi,
I got the knock June 12th. Husband was away, so they came back the following day. Raided the house, removed all laptops and phones, apparently is about 1 image he downloded as part of a torrent from KIK that was supposed to be just adult porn. Police made me ring my husabnds ex-wife to come and collect the kids and then told her why they were here. ( We had 50/50 custody)
SS have been involved. Ex wife has told SS she does not want any contact between him and the kids. ( She fought us hard in court about 50/50 and before that had always threatened to move away with the kids) SS have told us that they can't force "mum" to let him see the kids, but she has told SS she doesn't want them to see him or me. Twins are 9, we've been together 8 years.
Are there any step-mums out there who have gone through this. SS say they won't make any recommendations until they have a report from the poilce, which we found out today will be another 4/5 weeks.
He hasn't been interviewed or cautioned. Literally came into the house and searched it. They ook a load of my work USB sticks, about 8, full of planning applications and electrical diagrams.... have fun with those!!
Really frustrated as Mum/ExWife knows how I have a fabulous relationhip with the kids ( Which she hates) but won't even allow me to tsee them onmy own, even the SS have told her repeatedly this is fine. She somehow seems to thik I am guilty by association!
I'm sad. All of this is just so frustrating, new, unknown, drawn out....
I got the knock June 12th. Husband was away, so they came back the following day. Raided the house, removed all laptops and phones, apparently is about 1 image he downloded as part of a torrent from KIK that was supposed to be just adult porn. Police made me ring my husabnds ex-wife to come and collect the kids and then told her why they were here. ( We had 50/50 custody)
SS have been involved. Ex wife has told SS she does not want any contact between him and the kids. ( She fought us hard in court about 50/50 and before that had always threatened to move away with the kids) SS have told us that they can't force "mum" to let him see the kids, but she has told SS she doesn't want them to see him or me. Twins are 9, we've been together 8 years.
Are there any step-mums out there who have gone through this. SS say they won't make any recommendations until they have a report from the poilce, which we found out today will be another 4/5 weeks.
He hasn't been interviewed or cautioned. Literally came into the house and searched it. They ook a load of my work USB sticks, about 8, full of planning applications and electrical diagrams.... have fun with those!!
Really frustrated as Mum/ExWife knows how I have a fabulous relationhip with the kids ( Which she hates) but won't even allow me to tsee them onmy own, even the SS have told her repeatedly this is fine. She somehow seems to thik I am guilty by association!
I'm sad. All of this is just so frustrating, new, unknown, drawn out....
Hi D3400,
We have noticed that you haven’t had a reply yet from any other members on the forum. I am really sorry to hear about your situation and it sounds like this is a very difficult time for you with not being able to see your step children. Hopefully you might get a reply from other members on the forum soon but in the meantime, I would encourage you to contact us on our Stop It Now! helpline on 0808 1000 900 for some support. One of our trained operators will then be able to explore your situation with you further and provide tailored guidance and advice. I would like to assure you that the helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to phone from a landline.
From speaking with others in similar situations, we know that dealing with the implications of this kind of situation can be very difficult and confusing. You may find it beneficial to contact an organisation called the Family Rights Group (https://www.frg.org.uk/), who may be able to offer further advice around your rights in relation to your step-children and other issues regarding social services. Although we can not vouch for them, others in a similar situation who have contacted our helpline have found them to be helpful.
I hope that you will be able to call us on the helpline soon, if possible.
Take care,
Lucy
We have noticed that you haven’t had a reply yet from any other members on the forum. I am really sorry to hear about your situation and it sounds like this is a very difficult time for you with not being able to see your step children. Hopefully you might get a reply from other members on the forum soon but in the meantime, I would encourage you to contact us on our Stop It Now! helpline on 0808 1000 900 for some support. One of our trained operators will then be able to explore your situation with you further and provide tailored guidance and advice. I would like to assure you that the helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to phone from a landline.
From speaking with others in similar situations, we know that dealing with the implications of this kind of situation can be very difficult and confusing. You may find it beneficial to contact an organisation called the Family Rights Group (https://www.frg.org.uk/), who may be able to offer further advice around your rights in relation to your step-children and other issues regarding social services. Although we can not vouch for them, others in a similar situation who have contacted our helpline have found them to be helpful.
I hope that you will be able to call us on the helpline soon, if possible.
Take care,
Lucy